Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.WesCottII said:When she says she broke up with her fiance, read that she's broke up with her fiance. Simple. Keep gaming as you would normally.
We'd go mad if we tried to analyse everything.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I see your point, but generally, my seductions DO follow a set pattern. I make her laugh, we have a brilliant time in each others company, and she wants to see me again if she wants more of the same.Microphone Fiend said:you have to pay attention as a seducer though. You cannot just follow your own gameplan come hell or highwater. Coming out of a relationship can mean nothing, but it can also allude to multiple things. Maybe she was the one who got cheated on or something and she feels insecure. Then as a seducer you make her feel secure. Maybe she was caged and controlled in her relationship... you offer her freedom now. Maybe the guy never committed full to her... then you offer her the illusion of commitment for the time being. etc etc.
The point is you cannot be an autonomous seducer. You would treat women the same if you know nothing about any of them, but once you have personal facts and beliefs, you'd be a fool to ignore them....
drmeathead said:when chicks talk about there ex pretend they arent even speaking...
:woo: "Danger Will Robinson, Danger!!!" :woo:gimmeyofonenumba said:I met a girl the other night and called her today, and talked a bit and set something up. At one point in the convo, she told me how she had just broke up with her ex-fiance, and later reffered to him as her fiance later on but corrected heself....
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.