So in my circle of friends we've run into a bit of a problem. In a group of about 8 or so of us, there are 3 of us that would like to ask out the same girl. Now i've liked her for awhile now and was planning on asking her out whenever i get the chance to. However, another guy told someone else that he was calling dibs on her, not knowing that 2 other people like her as well. Me personally, i don't believe in it. But others say it's "being a good friend" and it could ruin friendships if you don't honor the "dibs". I was wondering what others around here think about this situation?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What do you think about "Dibs"?
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When a guy call dibs, it's like saying, "I get the first chance to ask her out."
Then, once he asks her out, she returns to fair game status.
The other option is that the next time one of your friends calls dibs on a girl, decide on the 'terms' of the call.
Because, it's true that such a thing can cause a bit of friction between friends...
Then, once he asks her out, she returns to fair game status.
The other option is that the next time one of your friends calls dibs on a girl, decide on the 'terms' of the call.
Because, it's true that such a thing can cause a bit of friction between friends...
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Personally, I don't believe in dibs. It's basically someone telling you what you can and can't do, while guilt-tripping you.
I do believe in bros over hos, but dibs is an exception, and I'll explain why. If a friend tells me that he's interested in a girl I'm planning to ask out, I will back off out of respect, and even try to help him out. Sometimes you do have to take one for the team, and it builds a better friendship.
But if he tells me he has dibs on her, he's pretty much telling me "fvck off, she's mine". Friends don't do that sh!t. If he came to me as a friend and said he was interested and if it would be cool for him to go for it, I'd give her up right there and then. But if he's telling me what I can and can't do, and trying to control me while using friendship as a guilt-trip, then he's sh!t out of luck.
Remember, real friends respect each other and don't step on each others toes over a girl. By calling dibs, this guy stepped on your toes, and that's not a sign of a friend.
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I do believe in bros over hos, but dibs is an exception, and I'll explain why. If a friend tells me that he's interested in a girl I'm planning to ask out, I will back off out of respect, and even try to help him out. Sometimes you do have to take one for the team, and it builds a better friendship.
But if he tells me he has dibs on her, he's pretty much telling me "fvck off, she's mine". Friends don't do that sh!t. If he came to me as a friend and said he was interested and if it would be cool for him to go for it, I'd give her up right there and then. But if he's telling me what I can and can't do, and trying to control me while using friendship as a guilt-trip, then he's sh!t out of luck.
Remember, real friends respect each other and don't step on each others toes over a girl. By calling dibs, this guy stepped on your toes, and that's not a sign of a friend.
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I agree with MOM!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Master Don Juan
MindOverMatter - I would agree with that, it is kinda like having your friend step on your toes a little bit...
That's why I would like to add that if the person DOES 'call dibs' he better act quick, and I let them know that 'dibs' is not an eternal thing, if it's been a week and he hasn't done anything about it then there is nothing wrong, and if the guy gets angry that you didn't let him get dibs then you just tell him "I gave you the chance and you didn't take it, that's as much as giving up. Deal with it."
That's why I would like to add that if the person DOES 'call dibs' he better act quick, and I let them know that 'dibs' is not an eternal thing, if it's been a week and he hasn't done anything about it then there is nothing wrong, and if the guy gets angry that you didn't let him get dibs then you just tell him "I gave you the chance and you didn't take it, that's as much as giving up. Deal with it."
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very very well put MoM. i agree with him 97.6%.
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