What do you say when they break 'no contact'?

[Tictac]

S.,

Your phrase about 'want you back to re establish the relationship and end it later her way' seems closest to the what I think she's doing. But I am no psychologist. I observe behavior more than interpret it.

I have asked here 'how to play this' and have no plans to 'take her back on her terms' though I have said (and re-said) that I would like to keep the relationship going - on my terms or shared terms.

You predict my behavior. Very well. How would YOU do this?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Tic-Tac,
" How would YOU do this?"Hmmm....Yeah well I am ruled by my prick....I would get her back but on the unspoken basis that she is a principal plate,keeping three nights a week for spinning plates....Ask me what SHOULD I do?...Well No contact of course!

 

[Tictac]

Thanks S.

What we will do and should do often conflict. Makes us human I guess.

I'm trying to finagle here to see where this goes. I never was much of a fisherman.

 

[Tictac]

More random texts from her today. Out of the blue after a week, I get two pictures of her new dog. A bit of banter back and forth after that. But nothing else. I just responded playfully.

WTF?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Tic Tac,
I stick to my original advice,but must say based on her message "Out of the blue after a week, I get two pictures of her new dog."This is a Bird very much ruled by her emotions,you can really take this wherever you want...Interesting thing about people who buy Dogs,they feel secure!but they crave affection in their life...An important character revealing aspect,is what breed of Dog they acquire..Think about it Tic Tac!

 

[Tictac]

Scar,

Your way is what I'm going for. Was figuring that while I'm on vacation on the Carolina coast next week, I'll find some random photmto send her.

Whimsy, thy name is woman.

 

[Zunder]

There is another scenario here. She could actually be a very good woman, looking to give a lot of herself to a man, but at 47 I am sure she has been through the mill a few times, hence her wanting to at least know after 4 months why you still go onto matchdotcom.

If you were spinning plates and said to her upfront "look I am keeping my options open", and she accepted it, well then you have a fvkbuddy--but it **seems** she was wanting a bit more than being a fvck buddy and at least she was honest with you when she said "I did such and such because you won't commit". I think as you are both of a mature age, then it could be a good idea to sit down and have a no bvlll**** session.

If you still regard yourself a plate spinner and want all options open tell her, and sense her reaction. If she balks, then politely ask her to never contact you again. If she does, and won't leave you alone, then maybe you might find a rabbit in your pot one evening. Or she may just get the message and leave you be.

 

[Tictac]

Thanks Z. I was actually spending a good deal of time with her and not spending any time on Match at the time.

I never close off all my options but match has nothing to do with that. And I don't recall her saying (or me typing) that 'I did such and such because you won't commit'.

Seeing her would be a good thing though I am wary of being drawn in only to be blown out again.

Like I said, I've never been much for fishing.

Thanks all.

 

[Zunder]

"But, she did go out a time or two and then pulled way back on me, as though her feelings have a rheostat. She said it was because I would not commit............"

 

[Tictac]

Fair enough Z.

 

[Outlaw_]

Second best thing : You only say to words. "Come over."

Yo bro. I had to join this forum to tell you that this is right on time. I just used it this morning on my ex, who I've been not responding to her texts. And, she's coming over tonight.

Her response dictates if any further conversation happens. If she comes over, treat her as normal, if she won't act normal, leave. (for me normal is chitchat making out and sex). If she acts normal talk to her after you bang her when/if she brings it up.

I'm going to run the interaction exactly like this.