"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What do you guys usually do for dates?

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Everyone knows there are options. Coffee shops, restaurants, going out, dancing, parties/events, etc.

I personally have found a lot of success with activities that I'd be doing anyway. (i.e. working from home and just having the girl over, practicing music/playing gigs, going to the gym.)

What has worked well for you guys date wise?

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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A drink, maybe an app if you want to continue the convo. Usually, never longer than an hour or two. Though, I've gone longer on occasion if the chemistry was there and we were about to get hot and heavy. You can even ask her, before asking the bartender/waiter what she's drinking. Then, you say when the bartender comes over, she's buying me a Johnny Black neat, I'm buying her a rum and coke; no ice.

Always lead.

As for second dates, groupon, goldstar and similar apps are your friend. Axe throwing is a great adrenaline rush both can do for cheap. Other options would be tennis, pool, mini-golf, feeding the ducks (weather permitting) at the park, zoo, etc. Don't do like some dudes here and feed her before you f uck her. You want to get an app during drinks, fine, nothing more. A first date shouldn't be more than 40 bucks in a major metro area. Second date, 40 - 60 bucks (activity + drinks after). You want to plan an activity near your place or hers. Therefore, if you go for drinks again, you can head back to either and get something cooking. Get it?
 
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A drink, maybe an app if you want to continue the convo. Usually, never longer than an hour or two. Though, I've gone longer on occasion if the chemistry was there and we were about to get hot and heavy. You can even ask her, before asking the bartender/waiter what she's drinking. Then, you say when the bartender comes over, she's buying me a Johnny Black neat, I'm buying her a rum and coke; no ice.

Always lead.

As for second dates, groupon, goldstar and similar apps are your friend. Axe throwing is a great adrenaline rush both can do for cheap. Other options would be tennis, pool, mini-golf, feeding the ducks (weather permitting) at the park, zoo, etc. Don't do like some dudes here and feed her before you f uck her. You want to get an app during drinks, fine, nothing more. A first date shouldn't be more than 40 bucks in a major metro area. Second date, 40 - 60 bucks (activity + drinks after). You want to plan an activity near your place or hers. Therefore, if you go for drinks again, you can head back to either and get something cooking. Get it?
Great ideas! I appreciate it.

also LOL feed her before you f uck her. What is she like a gremlin? cant get water on her or some shi t. that's funny.

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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A drink, maybe an app if you want to continue the convo. Usually, never longer than an hour or two. Though, I've gone longer on occasion if the chemistry was there and we were about to get hot and heavy. You can even ask her, before asking the bartender/waiter what she's drinking. Then, you say when the bartender comes over, she's buying me a Johnny Black neat, I'm buying her a rum and coke; no ice.

Always lead.

As for second dates, groupon, goldstar and similar apps are your friend. Axe throwing is a great adrenaline rush both can do for cheap. Other options would be tennis, pool, mini-golf, feeding the ducks (weather permitting) at the park, zoo, etc. Don't do like some dudes here and feed her before you f uck her. You want to get an app during drinks, fine, nothing more. A first date shouldn't be more than 40 bucks in a major metro area. Second date, 40 - 60 bucks (activity + drinks after). You want to plan an activity near your place or hers. Therefore, if you go for drinks again, you can head back to either and get something cooking. Get it?

If I was you I would drop the groupon thing... I'd say there's a 90% chance she's gonna be thinking cheap skate - It makes you look like you chose that place because you had a coupon rather than because you thought it was a cool place to go. It's in most cases a turn off. I get that you wanna save money, but there are plenty of chances in life to be frugal and this isn't one of them.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If I was you I would drop the groupon thing... I'd say there's a 90% chance she's gonna be thinking cheap skate - It makes you look like you chose that place because you had a coupon rather than because you thought it was a cool place to go. It's in most cases a turn off. I get that you wanna save money, but there are plenty of chances in life to be frugal and this isn't one of them.

For sure,

better to do cheap activities (coffee & explore the city) at "full price" than a more expensive one and start whipping out coupons left and right lol
 

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If I was you I would drop the groupon thing... I'd say there's a 90% chance she's gonna be thinking cheap skate - It makes you look like you chose that place because you had a coupon rather than because you thought it was a cool place to go. It's in most cases a turn off. I get that you wanna save money, but there are plenty of chances in life to be frugal and this isn't one of them.
Never had a problem with it dude. I pay on my phone, they never know. But, if you like to pay full price, knock yourself out.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I have taken girls fishing and sharks tooth hunting. I always get the “that was the best date ever “ afterwards. Just invite them along to do things that you enjoy doing.
 
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