Maximus Optimus
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I am 40 years old. 100 pushups/100 situps/100 dumbell lifts for 3 days a week and for 2 days a week taking a 30 minute bike ride
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I havent lifted in about a year.Are you lifting for the first time?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
@EyeBRollin is correct, don't forget your legs... otherwise you will look like a rooster.Not enough weight and too much volume. Invest in a barbell and squat rack.
Compound lifts...5x5 program would be great for youI havent lifted in about a year.
I would suggest you to train with your body weight . I was once a gym bro, but dropped it for calisthenics and boxing. I have a much better body response from body weight exercises , maybe you give it a try and see how you respond.I havent lifted in about a year.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That’ll get boring real quick. What I would try to do is do the 100 push-up challenge workout (it’s online if you want to look it up, starts out easy but gets hard really quick) where you work your way up until you can do 100 without stopping. There’s different variations of push-ups too so consider switching up every week or every two weeks. By dumbbell lifts do you mean curls or shoulder press or a mix? You definitely don’t want to overtrain, and I’m not sure what weights you have. What I do when I do curls is 4x20 with 25’s or sometimes I’ll do 4x25 with 20’s. Same with shoulder press, 4x15 with 25’s. Do you have any stairs outside you could run? If so I have an awesome workout for that and you’ll never have to do a single sit-up and you’ll be ripped.I am 40 years old. 100 pushups/100 situps/100 dumbell lifts for 3 days a week and for 2 days a week taking a 30 minute bike ride
I frigging hate doing squats. Still make myself do them though.More squats and dead-lifts.