Maximus Optimus
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I am 40 years old. 100 pushups/100 situps/100 dumbell lifts for 3 days a week and for 2 days a week taking a 30 minute bike ride
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What do you guys think of this work out routine?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
BackInTheGame78
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More lifting, less pushups and situps
EyeBRollin
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Not enough weight and too much volume. Invest in a barbell and squat rack.
Maximus Optimus
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I havent lifted in about a year.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RangerMIke
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Dumb bell workouts are great, which is what I stick with. You can get a good workout regime going and work all your muscle groups.
At 40 you should be okay, but as you get older you need to be cautious of dumb bell lifts and sit-ups putting too much stress on your lower back, there are ab workouts that can be just as effective as sit ups and better for core strength. A lot of people don't think of the WHOLE core, just the abs, but the core is also your flanks and lower back muscles. It's not for everyone, but I like yoga for this... best complete core workout you can do.
At 40 you should be okay, but as you get older you need to be cautious of dumb bell lifts and sit-ups putting too much stress on your lower back, there are ab workouts that can be just as effective as sit ups and better for core strength. A lot of people don't think of the WHOLE core, just the abs, but the core is also your flanks and lower back muscles. It's not for everyone, but I like yoga for this... best complete core workout you can do.
RangerMIke
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@EyeBRollin is correct, don't forget your legs... otherwise you will look like a rooster.
You can work out legs every day, and you should... squats are the best.
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Compound lifts...5x5 program would be great for you
I would suggest you to train with your body weight . I was once a gym bro, but dropped it for calisthenics and boxing. I have a much better body response from body weight exercises , maybe you give it a try and see how you respond.
I see no benefit in lifting with really heavy weights
What is your body type?
Do you have a current picture and how much do you weigh, how tall are you?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That’ll get boring real quick. What I would try to do is do the 100 push-up challenge workout (it’s online if you want to look it up, starts out easy but gets hard really quick) where you work your way up until you can do 100 without stopping. There’s different variations of push-ups too so consider switching up every week or every two weeks. By dumbbell lifts do you mean curls or shoulder press or a mix? You definitely don’t want to overtrain, and I’m not sure what weights you have. What I do when I do curls is 4x20 with 25’s or sometimes I’ll do 4x25 with 20’s. Same with shoulder press, 4x15 with 25’s. Do you have any stairs outside you could run? If so I have an awesome workout for that and you’ll never have to do a single sit-up and you’ll be ripped.
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I frigging hate doing squats. Still make myself do them though.
Deadlifts don't bother me, for whatever reason.
Maximus Optimus
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I have a current gym membership that ive had for the past year but havent used it because of COVID. I was thinking about going back in the gym. I have done calesthenics and boxing and didnt really like either one. I am 5'11 and I weigh 215. I live in Texas btw so its very hard to do outside exercises now cause its so hot.