"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What do you guys look for in a woman?

sangheilios

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I've noticed that a lot of guys just seem to take what they can get and have little in the way of standards in regards to what they'd actually want in potential gf material.

For me it's pretty simple;

- Have to be attracted to her- This one is a no brainer lol
- Exercises regularly and takes care of herself- I workout a lot and take care of myself so I see this as one out of compatibility.
- No drinking beyond a social level, drugs or smoking- Common sense
- No children- Not interested in raising another man's child
- Educated and reasonably intelligent- I'm pretty well read/educated so I need to be able to have conversations that go beyond gossip
- Has a life, friends, hobbies and interests of her own- Again, common sense
- No serious mental health or behavior issues- Everyone has their own little quirks, but I can't be in a relationship with someone who acts like a 12 year old.

The sad part is finding a woman who even meets half of those things is almost impossible, with 2/3 of women being overweight especially. As a 6'4", in shape and attractive white dude this is kind of disheartening to an extent but I'm sure she is out there.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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-attractive
-good family background
-low partner count
-kind, empathetic nature
-conservative/republican

Haven’t found this woman yet and don’t plan to.
 

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-attractive
-good family background
-low partner count
-kind, empathetic nature
-conservative/republican

Haven’t found this woman yet and don’t plan to.
Living in Los Angeles you probably aren't going to find a woman who matches your political views and the rest of what you are looking for.
 

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Living in Los Angeles you probably aren't going to find a woman who matches your political views and the rest of what you are looking for.
Lol yeah I know.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Summing it up beyond the obvious things (no kids, no smoking, good hygiene, bla bla)... in the moment after orgasm when your hormones change and enable you to look beyond wanting sex at her as a person, I still feel that I want her.

That's the most defining criteria I use.
 
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Summing it up beyond the obvious things (no kids, no smoking, good hygiene, bla bla)... In the moment after having sex, when a man's hormones shift and you can look at her as a person without sex clouding the mind, I still feel that I want her.
What, you mean you don't want a woman with dentures, more rolls than a bakery and smokes like a chimney?
 

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What, you mean you don't want a woman with dentures, more rolls than a bakery and smokes like a chimney?
Heh, well I like fat girls so more rolls than a bakery would be sweet... lol.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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