"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What do you guys look for in a woman?

sangheilios

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I've noticed that a lot of guys just seem to take what they can get and have little in the way of standards in regards to what they'd actually want in potential gf material.

For me it's pretty simple;

- Have to be attracted to her- This one is a no brainer lol
- Exercises regularly and takes care of herself- I workout a lot and take care of myself so I see this as one out of compatibility.
- No drinking beyond a social level, drugs or smoking- Common sense
- No children- Not interested in raising another man's child
- Educated and reasonably intelligent- I'm pretty well read/educated so I need to be able to have conversations that go beyond gossip
- Has a life, friends, hobbies and interests of her own- Again, common sense
- No serious mental health or behavior issues- Everyone has their own little quirks, but I can't be in a relationship with someone who acts like a 12 year old.

The sad part is finding a woman who even meets half of those things is almost impossible, with 2/3 of women being overweight especially. As a 6'4", in shape and attractive white dude this is kind of disheartening to an extent but I'm sure she is out there.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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-attractive
-good family background
-low partner count
-kind, empathetic nature
-conservative/republican

Haven’t found this woman yet and don’t plan to.
 

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-attractive
-good family background
-low partner count
-kind, empathetic nature
-conservative/republican

Haven’t found this woman yet and don’t plan to.
Living in Los Angeles you probably aren't going to find a woman who matches your political views and the rest of what you are looking for.
 

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Living in Los Angeles you probably aren't going to find a woman who matches your political views and the rest of what you are looking for.
Lol yeah I know.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Summing it up beyond the obvious things (no kids, no smoking, good hygiene, bla bla)... in the moment after orgasm when your hormones change and enable you to look beyond wanting sex at her as a person, I still feel that I want her.

That's the most defining criteria I use.
 
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Summing it up beyond the obvious things (no kids, no smoking, good hygiene, bla bla)... In the moment after having sex, when a man's hormones shift and you can look at her as a person without sex clouding the mind, I still feel that I want her.
What, you mean you don't want a woman with dentures, more rolls than a bakery and smokes like a chimney?
 

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What, you mean you don't want a woman with dentures, more rolls than a bakery and smokes like a chimney?
Heh, well I like fat girls so more rolls than a bakery would be sweet... lol.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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