"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What do you guys do to keep calm? Especially, when there are so many dynamics at work

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So, as it goes, my game is advancing, and I'm becoming more comfortable under approach, yet with so much accumulated knowledge comes the experiment part, where I get really uncomfortable trying new stuff, and its just not as smooth...

So, do I just ride it out, the initial stages or is there something that I can do to calm my self, and not become on edge...

Its like, I'm the most exciting and adventurous guy out there in terms of lifestyle, yet I always feel this uneasiness when talking to strangers, and trying to convey an interesting personality...

I'm Practicing this NLP, Donjuan, Motivational, Speed Seduction, (Meditatition, Hypnosis), and reading up, and following almost all the teaching in terms of Philosophical, and psychological concepts that are out there, its just that with the vast knowledge comes the question of conveying a unique personality, and as I expand my horizon beyond normal norms, I always find it hard to become that one guy that girls would go crazy over, as I battle my own demons in being "nice guy" vs the player...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ayeye

Mods, plaese move this to regular forum, my bad..

THX..
 
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You have overwhelmed yourself with the knowledge.

It's like cramming for a big final that you have to take in an hour. By the time you get to the final, you get fidgety, nervous, and feel like losing control. That is what is happening to you, is it not?

Take baby steps. You are not going to transform over night. It's going to take time. Just like a science experiment, trial and error are frequent. You can't run an important experiment in one single step. You have to take things slowly, one at a time. Build and strengthen the basics first.

Remember, you can't fake unique personality. With that being said, you can't develop a unique personality overnight. It's going to take a time. For now, slow things down and work on small things first. Slowly, you will see everything else fall into its place. You will be more in control of your actions, behaviors, and attitudes.
 
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I was just going to say the same thing as Bat, information overload without getting the chance to field test your knowlege. Without field testing your knowledge, its just theory.

You have to get comfortable putting your knowledge to practice in order to become natural at it.
 
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