"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What do you guys do to keep calm? Especially, when there are so many dynamics at work

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So, as it goes, my game is advancing, and I'm becoming more comfortable under approach, yet with so much accumulated knowledge comes the experiment part, where I get really uncomfortable trying new stuff, and its just not as smooth...

So, do I just ride it out, the initial stages or is there something that I can do to calm my self, and not become on edge...

Its like, I'm the most exciting and adventurous guy out there in terms of lifestyle, yet I always feel this uneasiness when talking to strangers, and trying to convey an interesting personality...

I'm Practicing this NLP, Donjuan, Motivational, Speed Seduction, (Meditatition, Hypnosis), and reading up, and following almost all the teaching in terms of Philosophical, and psychological concepts that are out there, its just that with the vast knowledge comes the question of conveying a unique personality, and as I expand my horizon beyond normal norms, I always find it hard to become that one guy that girls would go crazy over, as I battle my own demons in being "nice guy" vs the player...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ayeye

Mods, plaese move this to regular forum, my bad..

THX..
 
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You have overwhelmed yourself with the knowledge.

It's like cramming for a big final that you have to take in an hour. By the time you get to the final, you get fidgety, nervous, and feel like losing control. That is what is happening to you, is it not?

Take baby steps. You are not going to transform over night. It's going to take time. Just like a science experiment, trial and error are frequent. You can't run an important experiment in one single step. You have to take things slowly, one at a time. Build and strengthen the basics first.

Remember, you can't fake unique personality. With that being said, you can't develop a unique personality overnight. It's going to take a time. For now, slow things down and work on small things first. Slowly, you will see everything else fall into its place. You will be more in control of your actions, behaviors, and attitudes.
 
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I was just going to say the same thing as Bat, information overload without getting the chance to field test your knowlege. Without field testing your knowledge, its just theory.

You have to get comfortable putting your knowledge to practice in order to become natural at it.
 
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