"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do you do when a woman wants to change you?

jhonny9546

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I think it's something we've all been through, guys.
What do you do when a woman wants to change you?

a) You accept her reasoning, evaluate whether it can really be useful to you, and respond honestly: if it's useful to you, you'll change for the better, but if it's not aligned with your values, then it'll be a firm no from you (for example, she tells you you don't spend much time together, or that you're home too late at night, due to your work commitments and hobbies).

b) You don't accept her reasoning, you refuse outright (like when she suggests couples therapy).
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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a) You accept her reasoning, evaluate whether it can really be useful to you, and respond honestly: if it's useful to you, you'll change for the better, but if it's not aligned with your values, then it'll be a firm no from you (for example, she tells you you don't spend much time together, or that you're home too late at night, due to your work commitments and hobbies).
This sounds fairly reasonable, but I may not want to change even if her suggestion is for the better. It may not be something I want to tackle at this particular time, for whatever reason. You have to be ready to change before any actual change can take place, and I might not have reached that point yet.
 

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leave or stay. don't change.

attraction 101, she is attracted to you just as you are. the issue will be if you can manage her emotional attempts of control. if not leave, if yes then leave or stay.

after she fixes you your done.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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@jhonny9546 "What do you do when a woman wants to change you?"

-Put on a diaper

-Grant her her wish

This generally rids her of such desires

^^ That could definitely backfire if there is a k1nk dynamic in the relationship! lol

Generally, I would also leave. If it's a change I've discussed wanting to make and she expedites or facilitates me being to effectively make the change I was wanting to, cool. If it's her conjuring up a "I really wish you'd" or "I can't be with ____ who ____" then eh--- Bye!
 

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I wouldn't mind the kinkiness in her changing my clothes (I mean her physically taking off and putting on different clothes).
 

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after she fixes you your done.
Actually saw some friends change for the better. Their relationship its in a better state.
Their women actually asked them to change something that was off.
Of course they did change on things they believed they were reasonable to do.. like one friend was adviced to go to the psich to help with managing his anger.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Actually saw some friends change for the better. Their relationship its in a better state.
Their women actually asked them to change something that was off.
Of course they did change on things they believed they were reasonable to do.. like one friend was adviced to go to the psich to help with managing his anger.
that sounds good. keep track of them for time. after fixed, and not afraid of anger in this case. as with anything there are exception cases.
 
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