RickTheToad
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PA in a hospital. RE on the side.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What do you do for a living?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Rick I could’ve sworn you were a government worker
Rictor1
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You've been hiding your medical powers from us this whole time.
zekko
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What's an RE?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RickTheToad
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Municiple hospital. I've mentioned I work in a hospital multiple times. Usually in medically related threads. It's also when I state, this is not medical advice and they should seek out professional medical assistance.
I try to lend where I can. I need to watch what I type.
Real Estate
Papa_smu
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I work as a software engineer for a medium sized company. Been in IT for about 5 years which 2.5 of them have been in software development. I enjoy the work and can't see myself doing anything else. The gripes I have with this career is the pettiness among the business, the lack of female talent, and the amount of sedentary activity, but it comes with the territory. I rather have those headaches then what I had to deal with in my old career (customer service)
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You're going to kill yourself with stress if you keep doing that man. 3 jobs, high stress.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I sell mobile phone accessories as my main job. Like those generic Otterbox cases. I buy them for $3 to $4.99 and sell them for $19 and other phone stuff. The markup is nice but only 3 days a week. Looking into how i can design my own case line to have sold via Amazon like other makers like Supcase does for example. With the cheap cost to make and high markup I could make a 100k a year on that.
I also work part time at a grocery store.
I also work part time at a grocery store.
IT Admin/Network Engineer. Managing IT Infrastructure, Network, Security and Data Privacy for a production concern.
Had four years of professional training after school and working as professional for nearly 12 years now.
Right now I'm specializing in Cybersecurity.
Had four years of professional training after school and working as professional for nearly 12 years now.
Right now I'm specializing in Cybersecurity.
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I like traveling and want to go to Mexico for plastic Surgery. I learn more information on the Internet and found this site our website I have one question. Can I trust this information?
Ohso-Phresh
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Business Process Consulting -> Carpentry -> Flip Houses -> Flip Contracts -> now Futures Trader, BTC maximalist.
Some festival production on the side.
Left corporate environment about 20yrs ago.
I work for myself, whenever, wherever I want.
Some festival production on the side.
Left corporate environment about 20yrs ago.
I work for myself, whenever, wherever I want.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
dustmuffin
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Work for the government and real estate on the side
Serenity
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I'm a process operator at a metal refinery that's part of a huge multinational company. It's mostly a chemical process, not smelting which I guess most people would think of. I control the process which is probably the most complex one in the entire country. I'm 28 and have been working there for 10 years (since turning 18).
I'm very satisfied with the job, it has great balance between mental and physical work. Some days are super chill while other days I'm running around like crazy trying to save a sinking ship. Most days are pretty chill though, I'm well paid for someone who essentially drinks coffee most of the time.
I don't want to quit this job, but I do want to make more money, but I'm about to max out my current position. Looking into ways to make money on the side without too much time investment.
I'm very satisfied with the job, it has great balance between mental and physical work. Some days are super chill while other days I'm running around like crazy trying to save a sinking ship. Most days are pretty chill though, I'm well paid for someone who essentially drinks coffee most of the time.
I don't want to quit this job, but I do want to make more money, but I'm about to max out my current position. Looking into ways to make money on the side without too much time investment.
