"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What do woman want from men
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Women like sex, just as men like money, but our priorities are not the same, nor should they be.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Pretty much this.Aaron B said:
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A guy who's youthful, super handsome, got lots of muscles and millions in the bank! But this guy hardly exists.
Women want sex as long as the man's attractive or at least rich. Other guys have to go through mazes and fight their way to it.:cuss:
Case closed.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bible_Belt
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Feelings.
On that first point, yes. At least from my experience and girls through my life it is the young ones with the high expectations. Older ones...don't know so much. Although its not reality, they expect it thanks to the powerful force of television and fairy tales.nismo-4 said:
I pretty much eradicated the 'hot woman' fantasy because that's rare where I live (southern England), I don't expect it. On top of that I was picked on and belittled by girls in my youth, which left me a bad impression of womanhood well into my 20s to present day.
It is interesting how its come to a point in society where we value the sexual above everything else- I hate myself for not having foreseen it when I was younger.
My parents tell me how brilliant I am, but all that doesn't make women moist. Usually I wouldn't put it so crassly but its the truth.
Therefore older people (who actually already have their life stuff together) chastise me for being negative in that faux stiff-upper-lip 'life is like a box of chocolates' British sort of way (I am a Brit and we are sticklers for doing that) and that I feel empty, I lack in focus and concentration in everything I do in daily life, I am not in work and for that I am seeking therapy for it, because its come to a point where I might as well have 'kick me' pinned to my back.
This sounds very 'woe is me', and it is. But my point is this - my outlook is that no matter how much you try it won't work. And getting girls just won't work. Because we value the sexual more than anything else, this is not like one of these many other problems or challenges in life. I have been in many romantic situations and locations like Venice and I just felt empty. Its why I hate Valentine's Day. Its why I look at everything or most things in the most sombre way, and get agitated and angry, self-abusive, and everyone says I am the one who needs help.
Bible_Belt
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If you're self-abusive, then yes you do need help. Denying that would be just more self-abuse. You seem to think you deserve it, but I don't.
A negative attitude is going to work against you in every human interaction, not just women, but also work, business, family, and even strangers. Life is depressing enough without your negativity dragging other people down, and that's why we are always drawn to positive people and pull away from negative people.
Another little secret about life is that most people *do* get what they want out of life, whether they realize it or not. If you can't view yourself as worthy of success or happiness, then those things are never going to happen. It's your mindset making you fail, not your lack of worth and certainly not the unfairness of the world.
Lots of different ones.Bible_Belt said:
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Someone with ideals, a plan and knows where he wants to go, They also want you to supply them with ranges of feelings...they don't want a pansy.
What a woman wants changes as they get older though Less of the fun aloof guy, and more of the Responsible, intellegent, provider type of guy.
Try to be both and you got it made
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I just have trouble with the way the world sees me. I became my own best friend over recent years- meeker and more mentally screwed up, hence the psychotherapy. I have not been with a woman on any intimate level ever, and fear rejection. At my age love doesn't blossom gradually like my parents say, it starts when a girl jumps on you and says she would shag you. That makes you 'the one'.Bible_Belt said:
I was noticing one or two US men complain on a forum before about US women being so narrow-minded and looking elsewhere- well, from my experience its no different in England either. It's so grey and miserable- I have no motivation to work or focus on other things. You're right, it did affect family etc, but I think its the damaging effect of society.
Your post is enlightening, though.
* They want a man who makes them come.brady1124 said:
* They want to feel attraction for the man they are with.
* They want someone they can brag to their friends about.
* The want the man who they fantasize about when they are having sex with their boyfriend.
* They want someone who is confident enough to lead, and who doesn't ask her for approval.
* They want someone who is generous enough to spoil her.
* They want someone who is successful enough to support a family.
* They want someone who is capable of dating hotter women.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.