"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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What do PUAs think about marriage?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJDanny

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It's a personal choice dude, no one can tell you it's wrong or if it's right for you. It's a gamble sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
 

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If you ready to have children, you found a woman who shares your values and has proven herself over time and you are done sowing your wild oats, marriage MIGHT be an option. Choose very carefully, more carefully than you would choose your college, your business partner, your brain surgeon, your tax attorney during an IRS audit. It's serious business.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dannyrt34

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I'm not a PUA. Using that term makes me think about someone who's life revolves around picking up and banging girls.

Being a relationship kind of guy, I still don't think about marriage. Eventually it would be nice to settle down with somebody. But I'm not going around LOOKING for it.
 

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I would advise on marriage...make sure the girl you are going to marry, is the girl you truly want to be with for the rest of your life. Make sure that her family and you get along VERY WELL. these are my 2 cents.
 

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why would any guy want sign a marriage contract and only bang one woman for the rest of his life? foolishness
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DonJuanit0

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J Roc said:
why would any guy want sign a marriage contract and only bang one woman for the rest of his life? foolishness
Then I guess you personally wouldn't exist? Except if your parents were never married... Marriage is not about being loyal to 1 single woman (which is not bad if you have done with your wild oats as Warrior said) , but to have children, grow them up in a nice enviroment, teach them values, and I don't think you, or anyone else can handle this by himself that easily!

That's my opinion!
 

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DonJuanit0 said:
Then I guess you personally wouldn't exist? Except if your parents were never married... Marriage is not about being loyal to 1 single woman (which is not bad if you have done with your wild oats as Warrior said) , but to have children, grow them up in a nice enviroment, teach them values, and I don't think you, or anyone else can handle this by himself that easily!

That's my opinion!

I wouldn't exist? huh????????

you don't have to get married to raise kids in a good environment and teach them values...

there are plenty of bad kids that are raised in two parent households...
 

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J Roc said:
I wouldn't exist? huh????????

you don't have to get married to raise kids in a good environment and teach them values...

there are plenty of bad kids that are raised in two parent households...
Sure there are but I think you get the point! Would you prefer being raised within a family or with two parents each one away from each other? Maybe not even knowing your father cause he just wanted mom for sex?!? The odds that the kid will be raised properly are way better in a descent family! You can't disagree with that and that's what marriage is all about! (Not talking about when ppl say they love each other etc, I talk about what I think marriage is)
 

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marriage benefits the wife and children but it definitely doesn't benefit the man.
 

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Marriage CAN work, but that is very rare nowadays in this feminist world. There are many advantages for the woman but it's a raw deal from the man's perspective.

I always assumed I would get married and have kids and all that sh!t, I even kind of liked the thought of settling down one day. But in the last year or so I've realized what a bad idea that is.

This site will scare you off marriage for life LOL
No Marriage
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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how about a beautiful high self-esteem woman who raises the kids at home and provides you with a solid base to allow you to persue your ambitions. and if you start slacking, kicks your ass and encourages you.

sounds like a win win to me,

when you can get hot girls, it tends just to be a bad investment of time to keep chasing them. other more important things than increasing your bed post notch
 

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kingy said:
how about a beautiful high self-esteem woman who raises the kids at home and provides you with a solid base to allow you to persue your ambitions. and if you start slacking, kicks your ass and encourages you.

sounds like a win win to me,

when you can get hot girls, it tends just to be a bad investment of time to keep chasing them. other more important things than increasing your bed post notch
this isn't a question about being with such a women, but about being a part of a contract overseen by the government which is quite dated by todays standards. Being against marriage is not about being against a long term relationship as the two can be viewed as mutually exclusive. Read the thread on the mature mens forum.
 

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It is marriage. if you truly found the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with and you dont want to be with other woman then by all means go for it, unfortunately marriage has only a 50% success rate so that means 1 out of 2 times it fails. If you are thinking about marriage I'd definitely suggest living with her first before you do. because that way you will see her at her darkest moments and if you still want to be with her then it looks like you found the right woman.
 
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