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Don Juan
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What do u think?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Then I guess you personally wouldn't exist? Except if your parents were never married... Marriage is not about being loyal to 1 single woman (which is not bad if you have done with your wild oats as Warrior said) , but to have children, grow them up in a nice enviroment, teach them values, and I don't think you, or anyone else can handle this by himself that easily!J Roc said:why would any guy want sign a marriage contract and only bang one woman for the rest of his life? foolishness
DonJuanit0 said:Then I guess you personally wouldn't exist? Except if your parents were never married... Marriage is not about being loyal to 1 single woman (which is not bad if you have done with your wild oats as Warrior said) , but to have children, grow them up in a nice enviroment, teach them values, and I don't think you, or anyone else can handle this by himself that easily!
That's my opinion!
Sure there are but I think you get the point! Would you prefer being raised within a family or with two parents each one away from each other? Maybe not even knowing your father cause he just wanted mom for sex?!? The odds that the kid will be raised properly are way better in a descent family! You can't disagree with that and that's what marriage is all about! (Not talking about when ppl say they love each other etc, I talk about what I think marriage is)J Roc said:I wouldn't exist? huh????????
you don't have to get married to raise kids in a good environment and teach them values...
there are plenty of bad kids that are raised in two parent households...
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
this isn't a question about being with such a women, but about being a part of a contract overseen by the government which is quite dated by todays standards. Being against marriage is not about being against a long term relationship as the two can be viewed as mutually exclusive. Read the thread on the mature mens forum.kingy said:how about a beautiful high self-esteem woman who raises the kids at home and provides you with a solid base to allow you to persue your ambitions. and if you start slacking, kicks your ass and encourages you.
sounds like a win win to me,
when you can get hot girls, it tends just to be a bad investment of time to keep chasing them. other more important things than increasing your bed post notch