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Don Juan
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What do u think?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Then I guess you personally wouldn't exist? Except if your parents were never married... Marriage is not about being loyal to 1 single woman (which is not bad if you have done with your wild oats as Warrior said) , but to have children, grow them up in a nice enviroment, teach them values, and I don't think you, or anyone else can handle this by himself that easily!J Roc said:why would any guy want sign a marriage contract and only bang one woman for the rest of his life? foolishness
DonJuanit0 said:Then I guess you personally wouldn't exist? Except if your parents were never married... Marriage is not about being loyal to 1 single woman (which is not bad if you have done with your wild oats as Warrior said) , but to have children, grow them up in a nice enviroment, teach them values, and I don't think you, or anyone else can handle this by himself that easily!
That's my opinion!
Sure there are but I think you get the point! Would you prefer being raised within a family or with two parents each one away from each other? Maybe not even knowing your father cause he just wanted mom for sex?!? The odds that the kid will be raised properly are way better in a descent family! You can't disagree with that and that's what marriage is all about! (Not talking about when ppl say they love each other etc, I talk about what I think marriage is)J Roc said:I wouldn't exist? huh????????
you don't have to get married to raise kids in a good environment and teach them values...
there are plenty of bad kids that are raised in two parent households...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
this isn't a question about being with such a women, but about being a part of a contract overseen by the government which is quite dated by todays standards. Being against marriage is not about being against a long term relationship as the two can be viewed as mutually exclusive. Read the thread on the mature mens forum.kingy said:how about a beautiful high self-esteem woman who raises the kids at home and provides you with a solid base to allow you to persue your ambitions. and if you start slacking, kicks your ass and encourages you.
sounds like a win win to me,
when you can get hot girls, it tends just to be a bad investment of time to keep chasing them. other more important things than increasing your bed post notch