lokariototal
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What do u think?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What do PUAs think about marriage?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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hard to win though.
If you ready to have children, you found a woman who shares your values and has proven herself over time and you are done sowing your wild oats, marriage MIGHT be an option. Choose very carefully, more carefully than you would choose your college, your business partner, your brain surgeon, your tax attorney during an IRS audit. It's serious business.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
I'm not a PUA. Using that term makes me think about someone who's life revolves around picking up and banging girls.
Being a relationship kind of guy, I still don't think about marriage. Eventually it would be nice to settle down with somebody. But I'm not going around LOOKING for it.
Being a relationship kind of guy, I still don't think about marriage. Eventually it would be nice to settle down with somebody. But I'm not going around LOOKING for it.
The Piano Master
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I'm sure marriage can be fun if you are stealthy enough. Catch my drift, bro?
Commandante
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Then I guess you personally wouldn't exist? Except if your parents were never married... Marriage is not about being loyal to 1 single woman (which is not bad if you have done with your wild oats as Warrior said) , but to have children, grow them up in a nice enviroment, teach them values, and I don't think you, or anyone else can handle this by himself that easily!J Roc said:
That's my opinion!
DonJuanit0 said:
I wouldn't exist? huh????????
you don't have to get married to raise kids in a good environment and teach them values...
there are plenty of bad kids that are raised in two parent households...
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Sure there are but I think you get the point! Would you prefer being raised within a family or with two parents each one away from each other? Maybe not even knowing your father cause he just wanted mom for sex?!? The odds that the kid will be raised properly are way better in a descent family! You can't disagree with that and that's what marriage is all about! (Not talking about when ppl say they love each other etc, I talk about what I think marriage is)J Roc said:
starplayer
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Marriage CAN work, but that is very rare nowadays in this feminist world. There are many advantages for the woman but it's a raw deal from the man's perspective.
I always assumed I would get married and have kids and all that sh!t, I even kind of liked the thought of settling down one day. But in the last year or so I've realized what a bad idea that is.
This site will scare you off marriage for life LOL
No Marriage
I always assumed I would get married and have kids and all that sh!t, I even kind of liked the thought of settling down one day. But in the last year or so I've realized what a bad idea that is.
This site will scare you off marriage for life LOL
No Marriage
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
kingy
Senior Don Juan
how about a beautiful high self-esteem woman who raises the kids at home and provides you with a solid base to allow you to persue your ambitions. and if you start slacking, kicks your ass and encourages you.
sounds like a win win to me,
when you can get hot girls, it tends just to be a bad investment of time to keep chasing them. other more important things than increasing your bed post notch
sounds like a win win to me,
when you can get hot girls, it tends just to be a bad investment of time to keep chasing them. other more important things than increasing your bed post notch
this isn't a question about being with such a women, but about being a part of a contract overseen by the government which is quite dated by todays standards. Being against marriage is not about being against a long term relationship as the two can be viewed as mutually exclusive. Read the thread on the mature mens forum.kingy said:
It is marriage. if you truly found the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with and you dont want to be with other woman then by all means go for it, unfortunately marriage has only a 50% success rate so that means 1 out of 2 times it fails. If you are thinking about marriage I'd definitely suggest living with her first before you do. because that way you will see her at her darkest moments and if you still want to be with her then it looks like you found the right woman.