johncrawford
Don Juan
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What do you mean sorry ?Yapper said:that link isn't what you think.
It doesn't link to your photo for other people. Most likely there's some saved data on your computer (called a cookie) that makes that link take you to your photos... But it won't take people without that information on their computer to your photos.johncrawford said:What do you mean sorry ?
yup, it's a misleading link.johncrawford said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=AURQSQE-QRXstinkyape said:It doesn't link to your photo for other people. Most likely there's some saved data on your computer (called a cookie) that makes that link take you to your photos... But it won't take people without that information on their computer to your photos.
johncrawford said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Maybe because you don't smile?Why do I attract headcases?
She does not smile herself.(much)Obsidian said:Maybe because you don't smile?