johncrawford
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What do I attract!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
johncrawford
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What do you mean sorry ?Yapper said:that link isn't what you think.
It doesn't link to your photo for other people. Most likely there's some saved data on your computer (called a cookie) that makes that link take you to your photos... But it won't take people without that information on their computer to your photos.johncrawford said:What do you mean sorry ?
yup, it's a misleading link.johncrawford said:
but you attract wat ever female you want to attract. people who are similar tend to attract each other.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
johncrawford
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http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=AURQSQE-QRXstinkyape said:It doesn't link to your photo for other people. Most likely there's some saved data on your computer (called a cookie) that makes that link take you to your photos... But it won't take people without that information on their computer to your photos.
So pimp its scary
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Cause you look like you spend more time scrapping at the clubs than meeting chicks... maybe it's just the picture, but someone looks me like that I'll get my fist ready.
Seriously tho, it's not about the picture, it's about you as a person, how you act, what you say to a girl, the personality that you convey to others... that's what makes the difference in girls that you attract...
Maybe you go for thos that give outright IOI's, if a girl looks hot and she's not getting hit on enough, it COULD be a red flag (I wouldn't go so far as to treat it as a red flag, but if other things start popping up...), even tho in experience, a single girl typically goes fishing in a bar waiting for a guy to chat her up, and are most often normal... normal as far as women go.
Seriously tho, it's not about the picture, it's about you as a person, how you act, what you say to a girl, the personality that you convey to others... that's what makes the difference in girls that you attract...
Maybe you go for thos that give outright IOI's, if a girl looks hot and she's not getting hit on enough, it COULD be a red flag (I wouldn't go so far as to treat it as a red flag, but if other things start popping up...), even tho in experience, a single girl typically goes fishing in a bar waiting for a guy to chat her up, and are most often normal... normal as far as women go.
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johncrawford said:
your white, you've got good hair....ass should be handed to you on a platter ;
samueladams
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haha you're fine...go sarge and see what you can pull. You're not pretty like what I see out here in SoCal but you'll be fine most places.
johncrawford
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headcase
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=AURQSQE-QRX
This girl that I know called becky is one of these.
She is the manager of a clothes shop, downstairs in the mall.
I got her name a while ago She came in for a coffee.
I got the feeling she was not into me, after several things I tryed didn't work!
So I stopped making eye contact.Looked away when she was heading toward me.Started to talk about another women that I liked etc.
Now today when I saw her she "waved" at me!
What the **** is going on with this headcase.
I walked past her shop as well,and I could see her watching me!
Is she an attention hore,or does she like me now?
http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=AURQSQE-QRX
This girl that I know called becky is one of these.
She is the manager of a clothes shop, downstairs in the mall.
I got her name a while ago She came in for a coffee.
I got the feeling she was not into me, after several things I tryed didn't work!
So I stopped making eye contact.Looked away when she was heading toward me.Started to talk about another women that I liked etc.
Now today when I saw her she "waved" at me!
What the **** is going on with this headcase.
I walked past her shop as well,and I could see her watching me!
Is she an attention hore,or does she like me now?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Maybe because you don't smile?Why do I attract headcases?
johncrawford
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She does not smile herself.(much)Obsidian said:Maybe because you don't smile?
But when she does jesus christ:woo: