"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What did you have for dinner?
- Thread starter Wyldfire
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Dimebag_Darrell
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Eat a lot of food and get fat, yeah.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
J/KDimebag_Darrell
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wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Dimebag_Darrell
Banned
Dude, even if i was stoned whats the point of bashing it. ITS GOOD FOR YA
Dimebag_Darrell
Banned
You wish my mom would even look at your sorry ass, she'd be like "JC Jerkson? What the f*ck is that, Anal Lube?"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
KarmaSutra
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Hung out with Tom Sholz from Boston. Very bright, articulate guy.
Karma
thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
Every mother always over-exagurates subjects about their kids.
But good for you. Raising your boys to become men. I was raised by a woman and look where I am. Posting here.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
hahahaOriginally posted by thederekeffect1
Every mother always over-exagurates subjects about their kids.
But good for you. Raising your boys to become men. I was raised by a woman and look where I am. Posting here.
diplomatic_lies
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I can't cook anything beyond 2-minute noodles (and I even overcooked it once and blew water all over the stove). My real food comes from mum (2500 miles away).
I even considered finding a hot girlfriend who could cook. Then I realised that was a paradox.
My older son is more tolerant than my younger son. He's more giving and attentive but not to the extent where it's bad for him. His ex girlfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder and was not easy to deal with. He was able to deal with her pretty well for how she was. He's not an emotional guy, and for the most part, he just doesn't care one way of the other. It's infuriating for me, as his mother, but it helps him deal with girlfriends better.
My younger son...oh boy...he's a handful. He says when he's older he's going to buy an old church and turn it into a strip club called "Virgin Mary's" and have the girls wear Catholic school girl uniforms. I'll be surprised if any girl manages to really win him over. He's very hard to get close to or get to know. All the girls like him, though...but he couldn't really care less.
My older son will be a good boyfriend. My younger son probably won't be, but I could be wrong. Only time will tell.
Warboss Alex
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30oz rump steak with hot sauce, 300g of oats with cinammon and applesauce, three servings spinach, 10oz trout fillet with more hot sauce, two cans of tuna, can of sweetcorn, whole jar of natural (creamy) peanut butter, loads of no sugar added squash and CEE in grape juice. Oh, and a cuppa tea.
I've got half a gallon of mascarpone ice cream in the freezer as well but that's for a special occasion.
And yes semag, it WAS before the carb cutoff (at least the oats were), the meal took about two hours..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.