"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
What did you have for dinner?
- Thread starter Wyldfire
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Dimebag_Darrell
Banned
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Eat a lot of food and get fat, yeah.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
J/KDimebag_Darrell
Banned
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Dimebag_Darrell
Banned
Dude, even if i was stoned whats the point of bashing it. ITS GOOD FOR YA
Dimebag_Darrell
Banned
You wish my mom would even look at your sorry ass, she'd be like "JC Jerkson? What the f*ck is that, Anal Lube?"
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
KarmaSutra
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Hung out with Tom Sholz from Boston. Very bright, articulate guy.
Karma
thederekeffect1
Master Don Juan
Every mother always over-exagurates subjects about their kids.
But good for you. Raising your boys to become men. I was raised by a woman and look where I am. Posting here.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
hahahaOriginally posted by thederekeffect1
Every mother always over-exagurates subjects about their kids.
But good for you. Raising your boys to become men. I was raised by a woman and look where I am. Posting here.
diplomatic_lies
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I can't cook anything beyond 2-minute noodles (and I even overcooked it once and blew water all over the stove). My real food comes from mum (2500 miles away).
I even considered finding a hot girlfriend who could cook. Then I realised that was a paradox.
My older son is more tolerant than my younger son. He's more giving and attentive but not to the extent where it's bad for him. His ex girlfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder and was not easy to deal with. He was able to deal with her pretty well for how she was. He's not an emotional guy, and for the most part, he just doesn't care one way of the other. It's infuriating for me, as his mother, but it helps him deal with girlfriends better.
My younger son...oh boy...he's a handful. He says when he's older he's going to buy an old church and turn it into a strip club called "Virgin Mary's" and have the girls wear Catholic school girl uniforms. I'll be surprised if any girl manages to really win him over. He's very hard to get close to or get to know. All the girls like him, though...but he couldn't really care less.
My older son will be a good boyfriend. My younger son probably won't be, but I could be wrong. Only time will tell.
Warboss Alex
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30oz rump steak with hot sauce, 300g of oats with cinammon and applesauce, three servings spinach, 10oz trout fillet with more hot sauce, two cans of tuna, can of sweetcorn, whole jar of natural (creamy) peanut butter, loads of no sugar added squash and CEE in grape juice. Oh, and a cuppa tea.
I've got half a gallon of mascarpone ice cream in the freezer as well but that's for a special occasion.
And yes semag, it WAS before the carb cutoff (at least the oats were), the meal took about two hours..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.