"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what country would you move to and why?

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I got to go with saudi arabia and maybe canada toronto that is.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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United States. Would love to drive on collins avenue to Miami Beach. Fish a bridge at night.
 

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Stay here in the US. Maybe go to a more exciting area like LV, Miami Beach…. SF is pretty. But social scene is too low key nowadays.
 

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Hi Eli,
I used to do consultancy work for a group that supervised the construction of Embassies in amongst other places Saudi Arabia.....Two Guys there did long tours of duty over there,from what they told me,they would have preferred Alcatraz or Devils Island LOL.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lebanon:
You can not only purchase rocket launchers over the counter, but target shoot at something more lively than paper, all without the cops hassling you. Provided you're aiming in Tel Aviv's direction
 

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Hi Eli,
I used to do consultancy work for a group that supervised the construction of Embassies in amongst other places Saudi Arabia.....Two Guys there did long tours of duty over there,from what they told me,they would have preferred Alcatraz or Devils Island LOL.
why?
 

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Hi Eli,
Unless you have won the lottery,Isn't this all a little hypothetical?
 

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Italy, because the women are the best in the world.
 

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/s
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I might have said Canada at one time, but they seem to have slipped too far into Communism for my taste. They don't even have the right to free speech there.
 

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I might have said Canada at one time, but they seem to have slipped too far into Communism for my taste. They don't even have the right to free speech there.
I'm not sure any other country has free speech rights like the US. Many of the other developed countries have made being offensive into a civil tort, so if you hurt my feelings I get to sue you. But it only seems to be enforced against people the government doesn't like.
 
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