"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What Chivalrous stuff/moves do you do to women on a date?

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Do you open up doors for them? Do you open up their car door for them when they'e about to leave the car ? Do you let them walk at the protected side when you're walking them on a sidewalk? Do you pull up their chairs before they're about to sit at a restaurant? Do you walk them home after a date so they can be safe? Do you call them after a date anyways to see if they got home safe even though you didn't end up liking her? Got any more examples of this? Lol haha.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think Chivalry is great when you're not really an @ss kisser of women but just a decent person and would help out anyone whether it's a dude or a chick and whatever the situation is calling for. When you're being chivalrous, I think it's gotta have somewhat of an Aloof vibe to it ya know...like 'I'm doing this from the goodness of my heart, but whatever, I've got better crap to do that I'm eager for'.
 

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Chivalry is something you do when the situation calls for it and not something you do as a matter of course. I.e. not going out of your way.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Making her *** first - what a funny guy

I do all the "classic" stuff. When I take girls out on dates I like to show that I am considerate and take an interest in them. I can't say that it hurts even if doesn't work out fo rwhatever reason
 

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When rageful toward her, I confine myself to hurling pies in her face, than a gallon of battery acid
 

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If most of your chivalry that you do don't have the vibe of a James Bond playfully interacting with Money Penny or an aloof laid back vibe at the very least, then you have to question your intentions. Never kiss @ss dudes.
 

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Do you open up doors for them? Do you open up their car door for them when they'e about to leave the car ? Do you let them walk at the protected side when you're walking them on a sidewalk? Do you pull up their chairs before they're about to sit at a restaurant? Do you walk them home after a date so they can be safe? Do you call them after a date anyways to see if they got home safe even though you didn't end up liking her? Got any more examples of this? Lol haha.
Hi Travels,
Yes I do all of that and more,it was ingrained since Childhood and is one of the reasons that except for National Servive and time on remote stations I have never been without Female companionship for 65+years...Even when my Gang were Remodelling a knocking shop,I always held doors,behaved politely to all, and believe me some of those "Ladies"were real Skanks.
 
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