"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What Chivalrous stuff/moves do you do to women on a date?

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Do you open up doors for them? Do you open up their car door for them when they'e about to leave the car ? Do you let them walk at the protected side when you're walking them on a sidewalk? Do you pull up their chairs before they're about to sit at a restaurant? Do you walk them home after a date so they can be safe? Do you call them after a date anyways to see if they got home safe even though you didn't end up liking her? Got any more examples of this? Lol haha.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think Chivalry is great when you're not really an @ss kisser of women but just a decent person and would help out anyone whether it's a dude or a chick and whatever the situation is calling for. When you're being chivalrous, I think it's gotta have somewhat of an Aloof vibe to it ya know...like 'I'm doing this from the goodness of my heart, but whatever, I've got better crap to do that I'm eager for'.
 

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Chivalry is something you do when the situation calls for it and not something you do as a matter of course. I.e. not going out of your way.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Making her *** first - what a funny guy

I do all the "classic" stuff. When I take girls out on dates I like to show that I am considerate and take an interest in them. I can't say that it hurts even if doesn't work out fo rwhatever reason
 

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When rageful toward her, I confine myself to hurling pies in her face, than a gallon of battery acid
 

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If most of your chivalry that you do don't have the vibe of a James Bond playfully interacting with Money Penny or an aloof laid back vibe at the very least, then you have to question your intentions. Never kiss @ss dudes.
 

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Do you open up doors for them? Do you open up their car door for them when they'e about to leave the car ? Do you let them walk at the protected side when you're walking them on a sidewalk? Do you pull up their chairs before they're about to sit at a restaurant? Do you walk them home after a date so they can be safe? Do you call them after a date anyways to see if they got home safe even though you didn't end up liking her? Got any more examples of this? Lol haha.
Hi Travels,
Yes I do all of that and more,it was ingrained since Childhood and is one of the reasons that except for National Servive and time on remote stations I have never been without Female companionship for 65+years...Even when my Gang were Remodelling a knocking shop,I always held doors,behaved politely to all, and believe me some of those "Ladies"were real Skanks.
 
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