You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Originally posted by JT47319
OBVIOUSLY NONE OF YOU HAVE WINGED WITH GOOD LOOKING NATURALS.
Trust me, some of the Naturals that I've winged with can do AFCish things, BUT because they're good looking, the girls forgive the mistakes and allow him to display more value later on during the sarge.
With a Good Looking Natural, all he has to do is just barely do more things right than wrong. That's it. Good Looking Naturals are also going to pull a helluva lot more ONS-es than most guys.
For Average to Above Average Looking PUAs, your GAME HAS TO BE TIGHT as hell. You only get a few strikes before you're thrown out of the game.
If you get a chance, wing with Naturals. You can learn a lot from them, I've been lucky because I've always hung out with at least one Natural growing up.
And here in Hollywood, I know some model caliber blokes and believe you me, girls treat them like AFC guys treat a hot girl.
These are some of things I've seen that a girl will do within 5 minutes of meeting them JUST BASED ON A GUY'S GOOD LOOKS:
- They drool,
- stop what they're doing,
- stare,
- bump into things,
- tell they're friends,
- stare,
- get intimidated,
- stutter when talking to the guys,
- stare,
- point,
- nipples get hard,
- giggle,
- preen,
- touch their hair,
- touch their lips,
- stare,
- randomly buy them drinks,
- randomly hug them,
- randomly kiss them,
- stare,
- reach out to touch them like they were Jesus,
- try and rub their cyck,
- stare,
- drop something so he can pick it up,
- pull in another girl so he'll be doublely attracted,
- kiss that girl,
- dance "stripper" style,
- get wet and creamy.
And, oh yeah, decide within 5 minutes based on looks alone whether or not she's going to fyck him that very night.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your body language and internal beliefs are the most likely culprits. How is the eye contact, posture, tonality and congruency?At my job we have to deal with the public all day long, so I get to see and interact with plenty of new people every day. I’ve seen how girls act when they meet someone they think is cute / attractive and lemmie tell ya, that’s not how I’m treated. When it comes to me personally women either don’t look at me at all, or they see through me like I’m a ghost. (I’m waiting for one to bump into me, “oh I didn’t see you there.”) So women never even get exposed to my personality because I’m dismissed before anything can start. Without some looks the best personality / self improvement in the world won’t help; you could be the second coming of god’s gift to women but you’d get blown off.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.