She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Originally posted by JT47319
OBVIOUSLY NONE OF YOU HAVE WINGED WITH GOOD LOOKING NATURALS.
Trust me, some of the Naturals that I've winged with can do AFCish things, BUT because they're good looking, the girls forgive the mistakes and allow him to display more value later on during the sarge.
With a Good Looking Natural, all he has to do is just barely do more things right than wrong. That's it. Good Looking Naturals are also going to pull a helluva lot more ONS-es than most guys.
For Average to Above Average Looking PUAs, your GAME HAS TO BE TIGHT as hell. You only get a few strikes before you're thrown out of the game.
If you get a chance, wing with Naturals. You can learn a lot from them, I've been lucky because I've always hung out with at least one Natural growing up.
And here in Hollywood, I know some model caliber blokes and believe you me, girls treat them like AFC guys treat a hot girl.
These are some of things I've seen that a girl will do within 5 minutes of meeting them JUST BASED ON A GUY'S GOOD LOOKS:
- They drool,
- stop what they're doing,
- stare,
- bump into things,
- tell they're friends,
- stare,
- get intimidated,
- stutter when talking to the guys,
- stare,
- point,
- nipples get hard,
- giggle,
- preen,
- touch their hair,
- touch their lips,
- stare,
- randomly buy them drinks,
- randomly hug them,
- randomly kiss them,
- stare,
- reach out to touch them like they were Jesus,
- try and rub their cyck,
- stare,
- drop something so he can pick it up,
- pull in another girl so he'll be doublely attracted,
- kiss that girl,
- dance "stripper" style,
- get wet and creamy.
And, oh yeah, decide within 5 minutes based on looks alone whether or not she's going to fyck him that very night.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your body language and internal beliefs are the most likely culprits. How is the eye contact, posture, tonality and congruency?At my job we have to deal with the public all day long, so I get to see and interact with plenty of new people every day. I’ve seen how girls act when they meet someone they think is cute / attractive and lemmie tell ya, that’s not how I’m treated. When it comes to me personally women either don’t look at me at all, or they see through me like I’m a ghost. (I’m waiting for one to bump into me, “oh I didn’t see you there.”) So women never even get exposed to my personality because I’m dismissed before anything can start. Without some looks the best personality / self improvement in the world won’t help; you could be the second coming of god’s gift to women but you’d get blown off.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.