"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What can good-looks do that a personality can not?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
-Naturally, they'll have more innitial interest in you
-Being hot will drive up some of that animal passion in that HB9
If I think of anything else, I'll post it. Alpha pulls, Good looking drools.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
everything this man speaks is the truth. I have seen everything you mentioned here first hand and its amazing what a good looking guy can get away with. to try to deny this is just being stupid. esp now adays when girls are becoming more like guys and guys like girls.
Guys who are better looking get a lot more breaks and just have to not screw up in a lot of cases. Especially when the girl isn't super hot. Say a 7 or 6 and the guy is a legit 9. Looks like a stud. You can do almost anything and still get the girl in this case.
But all there advantages are just in the short term. B/c women really do factor in everything besides personality a lot more than guys. If you don't have a personality it WILL end quickly.
oh and as far as the initial post. I've never seen a girl approach a guy b/c she thinks he has a good personality.
ex "Guy is eating a burger by himself. 3 girls walk in a check him out then go upstairs to eat. 5 mins later a girl comes down to invite him up"
I saw this happen yesterday.
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Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
Talking about jobs, what's more important? Good diplomas or good capacities?
Sure once in your dream job, who cares about your diplomas when you have the capacities to succeed in everything you do?
But you still need the initial interview to get the job right?
So my answer is this: you need a little bit of both to be successful.
Without good degrees you never get you foot in the door, without capacities you won't last long.
Now back to the ladies. The only times I saw not so good looking dudes with great personalities getting with some HBs are when the girls are actually "forced" to give them a chance.
For example if you have a lot of HBs in your college class and the class is actually a very "social" one, involving a lot of conversations and presentations. The girls are "forced" by the social setting to take the time and see your great personality shining through.
On the other hand, at bars or worse: dance clubs, without the looks you are f***ed.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
And for that you don't need to be gorgeous, but at least the girl(s) should be somewhat attracted.
In general, the "work your game", "improve your game" mindset is very positive. But taken to the extreme, "when your game is tight, nothing is impossible, no matter how ugly you are" is just an illusion.
"If you work hard enough, nothing is impossible" is just a BIG LIE.
But "if you work hard enough, you will realize your full potential" is very positive and empowering and USEFUL!
Anyways, I am telling the truth... My eyes have seen it. The way how you are phrasing it is just the negative way. The main reason why alot of guys who aren't that great looking don't get much attention from women is that they weren't worded from different people. When one has become very well-known and alot of compliments were made, social proofs and kinos.. everything goes well. They can still remain friends. It takes a while though, to get used to most people's faces.
If there was ever a place for the "beautiful people" this was it. There were couples there that looked like they came straight out of a Ralph Lauren ad campaign.
I don't think it's "hotness" per se that women go for. It's style, energy, and attitude.
There was a thread on here discussing "alpha body language on video". Some punk kid walking around like he owned the place. There were guys today that walked exactly like that kid, yet they were congruent and real. They had an amped up energy level, like "yeah dude, I'm a $#^&* alpha".
Your body language and internal beliefs are the most likely culprits. How is the eye contact, posture, tonality and congruency?
Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
Again you are talking about exceptions with "very well-known", "alot of compliments", "social proofs and kinos" etc... I am talking about generalities, in other words 99% of the cases.
Sure, with all the "very well-known", "alot of compliments", "social proofs and kinos" etc... even I can be 99% sure to land 99% of the HB7 and + of my local club. But it's not the case, just like it's not the case for 99% of the guys out there.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MysteryWoman
Master Don Juan
Get to lay a greater number of girls.
Spike_the_cowboy
Master Don Juan
Damn.
Most of you guys (and girls) just don't get it. I'm not even going to try and explain it either (not again, anyways). Brad Pitt isn't even Brad Pitt. Heck, Soma even pointed out on another thread last week that Vin Diesel is a D&D fanatic and a major geek -- and you guys thought that he was the biggest DJ of all time!
The media and entertainment industry have you all brainwashed. Wake up!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.