You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why are you trying to be better than the other guys?For example on a date. How would you game her? How to be better than other guys in talking?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
And what REAL THINGS is your confidence based on?You should try and game her so you can later understand game is just a fassade. It doesn't work. It can get your foot on the door, but when you come from a gamer mentality, you're not even doing something you enjoy. You're trynna take her panties off in some weird, wicked way. Some girls will fall for that, most won't. The problem with game is that there is no progress in yourself.
Don't game. Go at it with confidence, observe your mistakes, make them better with time. That grows you.
Isn't that what most of this stuff is based on? To be better than the other guys? Corey Wayne and his "3% man", he's saying he's better than 97% of other men, because he knows all this info that women respond to. All this stuff about alpha males, which is to mimic the behaviors of the top guys. All the complaints about how women only want the guy who's the top 1 in 100 or whatever. Guys here saying they should get the girl because they are awesome DJs and the average guy on the street is just a beta chump. I mean, I'm not saying I buy into it, but that seems to be what it's about.Why are you trying to be better than the other guys?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thats the difference in "being the better option" vs "trying to sell her on you being the better option".Isn't that what most of this stuff is based on? To be better than the other guys? Corey Wayne and his "3% man", he's saying he's better than 97% of other men, because he knows all this info that women respond to. All this stuff about alpha males, which is to mimic the behaviors of the top guys. All the complaints about how women only want the guy who's the top 1 in 100 or whatever. Guys here saying they should get the girl because they are awesome DJs and the average guy on the street is just a beta chump. I mean, I'm not saying I buy into it, but that seems to be what it's about.
That was my point. If you are her best option that means you're "better than other guys", at least in her eyes.You should be self improving to be the best you can be, always. You will be her best option and she will sense that.
That's a ridiculous question. That would be the same as something like:For example on a date. How would you game her? How to be better than other guys in talking?