"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What Are Your Biggest Fears In Pickup?

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I'd like to know guys, what are your biggest fears, frustrations and concerns about pickup? This can range from anything approaching to closing or anything similar.

-SoCal
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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SharinganUser

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One of my "fears" is getting into a confrontation with some cokblocker afc. I know I can hold my own in a fight, I just hate fighting though.
 

War Against Betaism

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Honestly, it's confronting the "jealous ex boyfriend" of whoever I'm talking to. In my area, people do some stupid sh1t over girls, like I know a couple of stories of guys who shot each other up because they were fighting over a girl (an even more ridiculous story is that a guy got killed over a hat). I just don't wanna one day have to face through a situation like that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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macking

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My Body Language ... I have to learn more in that.

And I AM scared when I am in a set, and girls start to look each other. DAMN :D
 

Kid Style

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The most common fear....rejection! I've gotten used to rejection and my confidence outweighs it, but I still fear it everytime.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LostAndConfused

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not knowing what the **** to say. and the **** happens too so my fears actually have substance.

its hard as hell especially when either the girl doesn't hold up her end of the conversation, or if she's too shy to do so.

actually this isn't a fear, its a legitimate problem. small talk seems lame as ****.
 

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Simple, that gut ripping feeling when you can't seem to get your game on. it;s the worst experiance in the world. You know that your a nice, cool, sexy man... but when you game just doesn't go, I feel like CRAP, then I curl up into a ball and have to spend like 2 days psycin myself back up so I can pick up. It's horrible, and the one thing that I fear more then anything in this game... is my own social shortcommings and lack of skills at time.
 

Groovy

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Choosing the wrong one.

I like to be playful and I naturally kino a lot,, the problem isn't to keep the convo going, but sometimes I encounter a rude chick that doesn't like to have fun... And she may be like "STOP touching me YOU CREEP"

Apart from that... What's there to be afraid of?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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romangod

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Throwing my back out.
 

TheEdgeOf

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Trucks. Trucks are my biggest fear. I constantly worry about getting run down by a truck while gaming women. I always look behind me to make sure that there are no stray trucks looking to hit me. They're everywhere. Clubs, Bars, Malls- No where is safe from trucks.
 

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simply rejection...but I'm getting betta at not giving a dang.
 

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romangod said:
Throwing my back out.

I lol'ed for real at that. :crackup:

But really, this thread is silly. The ONLY fear when doing a "pickup" is that you may miss a better female while gaming your current target.
 
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Bringing this up once again! It's a new year! Have your overcame your fears? Are your fears the same or have new ones came to surface? Speak your mind!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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