"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What Are Your Biggest Fears In Pickup?

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I'd like to know guys, what are your biggest fears, frustrations and concerns about pickup? This can range from anything approaching to closing or anything similar.

-SoCal
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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One of my "fears" is getting into a confrontation with some cokblocker afc. I know I can hold my own in a fight, I just hate fighting though.
 

War Against Betaism

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Honestly, it's confronting the "jealous ex boyfriend" of whoever I'm talking to. In my area, people do some stupid sh1t over girls, like I know a couple of stories of guys who shot each other up because they were fighting over a girl (an even more ridiculous story is that a guy got killed over a hat). I just don't wanna one day have to face through a situation like that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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macking

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My Body Language ... I have to learn more in that.

And I AM scared when I am in a set, and girls start to look each other. DAMN :D
 

Kid Style

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The most common fear....rejection! I've gotten used to rejection and my confidence outweighs it, but I still fear it everytime.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LostAndConfused

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not knowing what the **** to say. and the **** happens too so my fears actually have substance.

its hard as hell especially when either the girl doesn't hold up her end of the conversation, or if she's too shy to do so.

actually this isn't a fear, its a legitimate problem. small talk seems lame as ****.
 

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Simple, that gut ripping feeling when you can't seem to get your game on. it;s the worst experiance in the world. You know that your a nice, cool, sexy man... but when you game just doesn't go, I feel like CRAP, then I curl up into a ball and have to spend like 2 days psycin myself back up so I can pick up. It's horrible, and the one thing that I fear more then anything in this game... is my own social shortcommings and lack of skills at time.
 

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Choosing the wrong one.

I like to be playful and I naturally kino a lot,, the problem isn't to keep the convo going, but sometimes I encounter a rude chick that doesn't like to have fun... And she may be like "STOP touching me YOU CREEP"

Apart from that... What's there to be afraid of?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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romangod

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Throwing my back out.
 

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Trucks. Trucks are my biggest fear. I constantly worry about getting run down by a truck while gaming women. I always look behind me to make sure that there are no stray trucks looking to hit me. They're everywhere. Clubs, Bars, Malls- No where is safe from trucks.
 

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simply rejection...but I'm getting betta at not giving a dang.
 

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romangod said:
Throwing my back out.

I lol'ed for real at that. :crackup:

But really, this thread is silly. The ONLY fear when doing a "pickup" is that you may miss a better female while gaming your current target.
 
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Bringing this up once again! It's a new year! Have your overcame your fears? Are your fears the same or have new ones came to surface? Speak your mind!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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