"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What Are Your Biggest Fears In Pickup?

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I'd like to know guys, what are your biggest fears, frustrations and concerns about pickup? This can range from anything approaching to closing or anything similar.

-SoCal
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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One of my "fears" is getting into a confrontation with some cokblocker afc. I know I can hold my own in a fight, I just hate fighting though.
 

War Against Betaism

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Honestly, it's confronting the "jealous ex boyfriend" of whoever I'm talking to. In my area, people do some stupid sh1t over girls, like I know a couple of stories of guys who shot each other up because they were fighting over a girl (an even more ridiculous story is that a guy got killed over a hat). I just don't wanna one day have to face through a situation like that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My Body Language ... I have to learn more in that.

And I AM scared when I am in a set, and girls start to look each other. DAMN :D
 

Kid Style

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The most common fear....rejection! I've gotten used to rejection and my confidence outweighs it, but I still fear it everytime.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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not knowing what the **** to say. and the **** happens too so my fears actually have substance.

its hard as hell especially when either the girl doesn't hold up her end of the conversation, or if she's too shy to do so.

actually this isn't a fear, its a legitimate problem. small talk seems lame as ****.
 

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Simple, that gut ripping feeling when you can't seem to get your game on. it;s the worst experiance in the world. You know that your a nice, cool, sexy man... but when you game just doesn't go, I feel like CRAP, then I curl up into a ball and have to spend like 2 days psycin myself back up so I can pick up. It's horrible, and the one thing that I fear more then anything in this game... is my own social shortcommings and lack of skills at time.
 

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Choosing the wrong one.

I like to be playful and I naturally kino a lot,, the problem isn't to keep the convo going, but sometimes I encounter a rude chick that doesn't like to have fun... And she may be like "STOP touching me YOU CREEP"

Apart from that... What's there to be afraid of?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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romangod

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Throwing my back out.
 

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Trucks. Trucks are my biggest fear. I constantly worry about getting run down by a truck while gaming women. I always look behind me to make sure that there are no stray trucks looking to hit me. They're everywhere. Clubs, Bars, Malls- No where is safe from trucks.
 

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simply rejection...but I'm getting betta at not giving a dang.
 

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romangod said:
Throwing my back out.

I lol'ed for real at that. :crackup:

But really, this thread is silly. The ONLY fear when doing a "pickup" is that you may miss a better female while gaming your current target.
 
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Bringing this up once again! It's a new year! Have your overcame your fears? Are your fears the same or have new ones came to surface? Speak your mind!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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