"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"What are you looking for?"
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Curious on when and how you do this? Like a couple dates in, or....? And do you say your not looking for a relationship?
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On OLD, I always state what I am looking for. Helps me get what I want.
I've never had a woman turn me down because I wanted a relationship, but I have been with a few that turned me down because all I wanted was "fun times". So do what you think you need to do to get what you want. I don't care to be deceptive just to score some pu$$y.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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My response everytime.
Sometimes they go further and ask if I'm looking for a relationship. I tell them "if you're what I'm looking for I won't be".
You answer 'love, marriage, babies.' she can respond 'whoa, you are moving way too fast! It's too soon! Who do you think you are?'
You answer 'good company, see where it goes.' she can respond 'what, you just want to have fun? Use me for sex and then dump me?'
I would respond 'what do you want me to look for?' and whatever she says, agree with it.
Most girls are savvy enough to get past this, though. Typically, they'll just give you a "oh come on, just be honest."
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
QuadDeuces
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"I'm horny, want to fvck?"
And another date asked me after she told me she is looking for an LTR what I HONESTLY was looking for: I looked her dead in the eyes and told her "I want to grab you by your hair and put my d*ck in your mouth"
She kissed me right after I said that.
I smashed both girls a few hours later. They told me later they were shocked by how rude I was and they were a little afraid of me and thought I was a bad boy. Which made them attracted to me.
So being rudely direct can work very well. But I suppose you can also be slapped or get a drink in the face.
Like @Poon King says (RIP), being direct can have two outcomes: it generates interest and reveals non-interest. Both work in your favor.
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QuadDeuces
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Nice. Ambiguous and non committal.
This is what I use for things like OLD.
I was asking based on a girl I'd been out with and there was chemistry already.
Right. In that case i would try to revert it back to her the same question
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.