"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"What are you looking for?"
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Curious on when and how you do this? Like a couple dates in, or....? And do you say your not looking for a relationship?
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On OLD, I always state what I am looking for. Helps me get what I want.
I've never had a woman turn me down because I wanted a relationship, but I have been with a few that turned me down because all I wanted was "fun times". So do what you think you need to do to get what you want. I don't care to be deceptive just to score some pu$$y.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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My response everytime.
Sometimes they go further and ask if I'm looking for a relationship. I tell them "if you're what I'm looking for I won't be".
You answer 'love, marriage, babies.' she can respond 'whoa, you are moving way too fast! It's too soon! Who do you think you are?'
You answer 'good company, see where it goes.' she can respond 'what, you just want to have fun? Use me for sex and then dump me?'
I would respond 'what do you want me to look for?' and whatever she says, agree with it.
Most girls are savvy enough to get past this, though. Typically, they'll just give you a "oh come on, just be honest."
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
QuadDeuces
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"I'm horny, want to fvck?"
And another date asked me after she told me she is looking for an LTR what I HONESTLY was looking for: I looked her dead in the eyes and told her "I want to grab you by your hair and put my d*ck in your mouth"
She kissed me right after I said that.
I smashed both girls a few hours later. They told me later they were shocked by how rude I was and they were a little afraid of me and thought I was a bad boy. Which made them attracted to me.
So being rudely direct can work very well. But I suppose you can also be slapped or get a drink in the face.
Like @Poon King says (RIP), being direct can have two outcomes: it generates interest and reveals non-interest. Both work in your favor.
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Yes
QuadDeuces
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Nice. Ambiguous and non committal.
This is what I use for things like OLD.
I was asking based on a girl I'd been out with and there was chemistry already.
Right. In that case i would try to revert it back to her the same question
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.