You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The worst thing is to assume all these signs mean anything before she has sex with you. Once sex is out of the question, these signs will have more meaning.No need to check for signs, trust your gut HONESTLY.
If during the interaction you find yourlsef frustrated or annoyed with no explanation its because subconsciously you realized its a waste of time.
The worst thing you can do is look for signs while being horny and hopeful she likes you, you will start thinking that her ordering a red drink instead of a white one its a sign she wants you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
About time a new user understands thisHi, I'm new to this forum, so first off. Good to be here.
Regards to your question, I never look for "IOIs" anymore. Believe me, if she's not interested, it's always pretty clear. [She's looking at her phone, walking off, or in the funny situations, pointing at her wedding ring.]
I suggest you just keep escalating and BELIEVE that she likes you.
You should just repeat this in your head throughout the interaction: "She thinks I'm sexy."
If you have to look for signs: you don't believe she likes you, so you already lost the game.
Submission.What are the biggest attraction signs when talking to a women ?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I never look for IOI.... I go after what I want. If you do things right, eventually the IOI will come up, but do not wait for them. However, you need to pay attention to body language signs of disinterest. You get these you should move on.Hi, I'm new to this forum, so first off. Good to be here.
Regards to your question, I never look for "IOIs" anymore. Believe me, if she's not interested, it's always pretty clear. [She's looking at her phone, walking off, or in the funny situations, pointing at her wedding ring.]
I suggest you just keep escalating and BELIEVE that she likes you.
You should just repeat this in your head throughout the interaction: "She thinks I'm sexy."
If you have to look for signs: you don't believe she likes you, so you already lost the game.
I went through a phase of pushing through the IOD's.I never look for IOI.... I go after what I want. If you do things right, eventually the IOI will come up, but do not wait for them. However, you need to pay attention to body language signs of disinterest. You get these you should move on.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.