"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What are the biggest attraction signs when talking to a women ?

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What are the biggest attraction signs when talking to a women ?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Only thing that matters is whether they have sex with you or not.
 

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  1. She will hold eye contact.
  2. She will show her teeth.
  3. She will touch you.
  4. She will use words like hero.
  5. She will say things like "I love your shirt" (which contains "I love you").
  6. She will say things like "you are perfect", "I knew I liked you", "I love you" in a playful way.
  7. She will hug you such that you are face to face (not a chest hug).
  8. She will kiss you without your trying.
  9. She will put her number into your phone and program it in.
  10. She will send long text messages.
  11. She will always reply.
  12. She will tell you her story.
 

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No need to check for signs, trust your gut HONESTLY.

If during the interaction you find yourlsef frustrated or annoyed with no explanation its because subconsciously you realized its a waste of time.

The worst thing you can do is look for signs while being horny and hopeful she likes you, you will start thinking that her ordering a red drink instead of a white one its a sign she wants you.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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No need to check for signs, trust your gut HONESTLY.

If during the interaction you find yourlsef frustrated or annoyed with no explanation its because subconsciously you realized its a waste of time.

The worst thing you can do is look for signs while being horny and hopeful she likes you, you will start thinking that her ordering a red drink instead of a white one its a sign she wants you.
The worst thing is to assume all these signs mean anything before she has sex with you. Once sex is out of the question, these signs will have more meaning.
 

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There is one sure-fire sign. The simple smile.

If she is smiling at you, you have a green light. I don't even deal with women who don't smile at me. The smile is mandatory and it is her request for me to pursue her.
 

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The biggest one by far for me is her establishing physical contact. Nowdays I really don't put much thought into what a chick is saying.


This past week I went on 2 dates. Had a great conversation with the first gal and she was laughing quite a bit. The second one not only didn't smile or laugh a lot, but even tried to neg me a few times without success. However, during the date she reached out to grab my arm twice.

The first girl flaked on me later on, the second one started texting me right after our date.
 

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They are irrelevant. Go for what you want.
 

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Hi, I'm new to this forum, so first off. Good to be here.

Regards to your question, I never look for "IOIs" anymore. Believe me, if she's not interested, it's always pretty clear. [She's looking at her phone, walking off, or in the funny situations, pointing at her wedding ring.]

I suggest you just keep escalating and BELIEVE that she likes you.
You should just repeat this in your head throughout the interaction: "She thinks I'm sexy."

If you have to look for signs: you don't believe she likes you, so you already lost the game.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hi, I'm new to this forum, so first off. Good to be here.

Regards to your question, I never look for "IOIs" anymore. Believe me, if she's not interested, it's always pretty clear. [She's looking at her phone, walking off, or in the funny situations, pointing at her wedding ring.]

I suggest you just keep escalating and BELIEVE that she likes you.
You should just repeat this in your head throughout the interaction: "She thinks I'm sexy."

If you have to look for signs: you don't believe she likes you, so you already lost the game.
About time a new user understands this
 

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Well just ignore the signs and keep wasting your time then!

Here's what I've gathered from lots of first hand experience over the years:
1. Compliant.
2. Highly accepting of whatever you offer.
3. Zero Flakeyness/Follows thru on plans.
4. Initiates a kiss.
5. Willingness to alter her schedule to fit yours.
6. Turns her body towards yours.
7. Touches you.
8. Wants to learn about you.
9. Opens up to you verbally/emotionally.
10. Complimentary
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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From my experience the number one indicator is if SHE ASKS YOU QUESTIONS AND YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE ASKING THEM.
 

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(Good sign) Eye contact no looking away or scanning the room
(Better sign) Positive body language, she is facing you with an open posture.
(Slightly better) She works to keep the conversation going.
(As good as it usually gets) She touches you, where she touches you will determine how far you can push the interaction.
(Best sign) Finally she pays you some kind of compliment..
(This is really a good sign as long as you are not looking for just a hook-up) She asks you questions and is trying to build rapport.
 

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Hi, I'm new to this forum, so first off. Good to be here.

Regards to your question, I never look for "IOIs" anymore. Believe me, if she's not interested, it's always pretty clear. [She's looking at her phone, walking off, or in the funny situations, pointing at her wedding ring.]

I suggest you just keep escalating and BELIEVE that she likes you.
You should just repeat this in your head throughout the interaction: "She thinks I'm sexy."

If you have to look for signs: you don't believe she likes you, so you already lost the game.
I never look for IOI.... I go after what I want. If you do things right, eventually the IOI will come up, but do not wait for them. However, you need to pay attention to body language signs of disinterest. You get these you should move on.
 

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I never look for IOI.... I go after what I want. If you do things right, eventually the IOI will come up, but do not wait for them. However, you need to pay attention to body language signs of disinterest. You get these you should move on.
I went through a phase of pushing through the IOD's.

Me: "If you don't like me that much then slap me."
Chick: "I'm not going to slap you."
Me: "Then I'm staying here..."
Chick: *Silence* - *Checks phone*
Me: "So... how do you know your friend?"
Chick: *Silence*
Me: "Just slap me already."
Chick: *Slaps me real hard*
Me: "Cool." *Walks away*

Another time, I pushed the IODs and a chick actually punched me. [I didn't ask for that. I just over did the teasing.]

Anyway - Agreed that unless you're wanting trouble, it's best to find a girl who's letting you progress.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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