"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What are the biggest attraction signs when talking to a women ?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dhoulmagus
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- She will hold eye contact.
- She will show her teeth.
- She will touch you.
- She will use words like hero.
- She will say things like "I love your shirt" (which contains "I love you").
- She will say things like "you are perfect", "I knew I liked you", "I love you" in a playful way.
- She will hug you such that you are face to face (not a chest hug).
- She will kiss you without your trying.
- She will put her number into your phone and program it in.
- She will send long text messages.
- She will always reply.
- She will tell you her story.
Who Dares Win
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If during the interaction you find yourlsef frustrated or annoyed with no explanation its because subconsciously you realized its a waste of time.
The worst thing you can do is look for signs while being horny and hopeful she likes you, you will start thinking that her ordering a red drink instead of a white one its a sign she wants you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dhoulmagus
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The worst thing is to assume all these signs mean anything before she has sex with you. Once sex is out of the question, these signs will have more meaning.
Atom Smasher
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If she is smiling at you, you have a green light. I don't even deal with women who don't smile at me. The smile is mandatory and it is her request for me to pursue her.
This past week I went on 2 dates. Had a great conversation with the first gal and she was laughing quite a bit. The second one not only didn't smile or laugh a lot, but even tried to neg me a few times without success. However, during the date she reached out to grab my arm twice.
The first girl flaked on me later on, the second one started texting me right after our date.
Calum Tingham
Don Juan
Regards to your question, I never look for "IOIs" anymore. Believe me, if she's not interested, it's always pretty clear. [She's looking at her phone, walking off, or in the funny situations, pointing at her wedding ring.]
I suggest you just keep escalating and BELIEVE that she likes you.
You should just repeat this in your head throughout the interaction: "She thinks I'm sexy."
If you have to look for signs: you don't believe she likes you, so you already lost the game.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
marmel75
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About time a new user understands this
The Duke
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Here's what I've gathered from lots of first hand experience over the years:
1. Compliant.
2. Highly accepting of whatever you offer.
3. Zero Flakeyness/Follows thru on plans.
4. Initiates a kiss.
5. Willingness to alter her schedule to fit yours.
6. Turns her body towards yours.
7. Touches you.
8. Wants to learn about you.
9. Opens up to you verbally/emotionally.
10. Complimentary
PeasantPlayer
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Submission.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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RangerMIke
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(Better sign) Positive body language, she is facing you with an open posture.
(Slightly better) She works to keep the conversation going.
(As good as it usually gets) She touches you, where she touches you will determine how far you can push the interaction.
(Best sign) Finally she pays you some kind of compliment..
(This is really a good sign as long as you are not looking for just a hook-up) She asks you questions and is trying to build rapport.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
I never look for IOI.... I go after what I want. If you do things right, eventually the IOI will come up, but do not wait for them. However, you need to pay attention to body language signs of disinterest. You get these you should move on.
Calum Tingham
Don Juan
I went through a phase of pushing through the IOD's.
Me: "If you don't like me that much then slap me."
Chick: "I'm not going to slap you."
Me: "Then I'm staying here..."
Chick: *Silence* - *Checks phone*
Me: "So... how do you know your friend?"
Chick: *Silence*
Me: "Just slap me already."
Chick: *Slaps me real hard*
Me: "Cool." *Walks away*
Another time, I pushed the IODs and a chick actually punched me. [I didn't ask for that. I just over did the teasing.]
Anyway - Agreed that unless you're wanting trouble, it's best to find a girl who's letting you progress.
WhiskeyTango
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.