Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hahahadopexile said:I prefer not to start convos. I just go up and introduce myself and let her know "these balls aren't gonna suck themselves, lady".
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I will agree about being dominate and controlling the flow.aldaris said:we usually talk about my chest and abs. hell, most of the broads i have been banging wanna avoid talking about their ****ty lives of kids and work. yeah, they are HORrible mothers and pretty pathetic people. do i care? hell no! if i can't bang'em the second time we get together out they go. so far i have been 8 of 10 in the last two weeks. the two that i gave up on were hopeless.
simply talk about whatever you think will lead you to getting them in the hay. the idea is to get your man muscle some work. this means that you must dominate the flow of the conversation. don't let the stupid fools get you off topic. sit up straight and dominate!! (that rhymes :cheer: )
Good grief. If the date ends, and he doesn't get laid, who gives a sh1t? Life doesn't revolve around getting laid or women for that fact. If he shows this girl he's desperate for sex, she'll never give it up. Are you expecting him to say, "Hey, let's fvck". Well if he listens to you, he'll never get a quality girl and his desires will be all messed up. Yea, he may get laid (and I mean a big "may"), but is that all there is? Now, I can understand not adding to much in your head to a date with some chick. Life won't end without her. Life won't end without fvcking her either.aldaris said:if you talk too much about her it will totally kill any chance you have of getting your love muscle some work within the aldaris two date rule* what happens is that she will probably become depressed and start thinking about **** that will only get in the way of you getting what you really want. so keep things revolving about why she needs you. if you spend too much time thinking about this crap you are pure afc. and you know how we feel about afc's :moon:
* this is the rule that says if you don't get your man muscle polished before the second date you gotta move on.
AMEN! I wouldn't even consider a relationship with a chick that gives it up that easily.tick37 said:If she hasn't fvcked by the second date, you've probably got a better woman than most. All girls I've fvcked were on the first date, and they all turned out to be of lesser quality.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
lol, sissy sh!t? I'm not sure what you're referring to, but I sure hope you're calling pizza sissy sh!t! Oh man, that would show what a weak-stomached burger lover you are!tick37 said:Forget all that sissy sh1t. Just talk about her. Don't talk to much about yourself. Talking about yourself shows selfishness. Pick on her and joke about some of the stuff she says so that you're not seen as falling all over her, but act interested and always try to relate.
From here on out, I'm only going to respond substantively if your post is respectful and open.tick37 said:Forget all that sissy sh1t. Just talk about her. Don't talk to much about yourself. Talking about yourself shows selfishness. Pick on her and joke about some of the stuff she says so that you're not seen as falling all over her, but act interested and always try to relate.