You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hahahadopexile said:I prefer not to start convos. I just go up and introduce myself and let her know "these balls aren't gonna suck themselves, lady".
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I will agree about being dominate and controlling the flow.aldaris said:we usually talk about my chest and abs. hell, most of the broads i have been banging wanna avoid talking about their ****ty lives of kids and work. yeah, they are HORrible mothers and pretty pathetic people. do i care? hell no! if i can't bang'em the second time we get together out they go. so far i have been 8 of 10 in the last two weeks. the two that i gave up on were hopeless.
simply talk about whatever you think will lead you to getting them in the hay. the idea is to get your man muscle some work. this means that you must dominate the flow of the conversation. don't let the stupid fools get you off topic. sit up straight and dominate!! (that rhymes :cheer: )
Good grief. If the date ends, and he doesn't get laid, who gives a sh1t? Life doesn't revolve around getting laid or women for that fact. If he shows this girl he's desperate for sex, she'll never give it up. Are you expecting him to say, "Hey, let's fvck". Well if he listens to you, he'll never get a quality girl and his desires will be all messed up. Yea, he may get laid (and I mean a big "may"), but is that all there is? Now, I can understand not adding to much in your head to a date with some chick. Life won't end without her. Life won't end without fvcking her either.aldaris said:if you talk too much about her it will totally kill any chance you have of getting your love muscle some work within the aldaris two date rule* what happens is that she will probably become depressed and start thinking about **** that will only get in the way of you getting what you really want. so keep things revolving about why she needs you. if you spend too much time thinking about this crap you are pure afc. and you know how we feel about afc's :moon:
* this is the rule that says if you don't get your man muscle polished before the second date you gotta move on.
AMEN! I wouldn't even consider a relationship with a chick that gives it up that easily.tick37 said:If she hasn't fvcked by the second date, you've probably got a better woman than most. All girls I've fvcked were on the first date, and they all turned out to be of lesser quality.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
lol, sissy sh!t? I'm not sure what you're referring to, but I sure hope you're calling pizza sissy sh!t! Oh man, that would show what a weak-stomached burger lover you are!tick37 said:Forget all that sissy sh1t. Just talk about her. Don't talk to much about yourself. Talking about yourself shows selfishness. Pick on her and joke about some of the stuff she says so that you're not seen as falling all over her, but act interested and always try to relate.
From here on out, I'm only going to respond substantively if your post is respectful and open.tick37 said:Forget all that sissy sh1t. Just talk about her. Don't talk to much about yourself. Talking about yourself shows selfishness. Pick on her and joke about some of the stuff she says so that you're not seen as falling all over her, but act interested and always try to relate.