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What are some goals an incel should have in life?

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A college professor could dream about publishing an amazing paper and getting his paper cited a lot among his field. It's usually not about attracting women because he's already married.

A police officer could dream about breaking an amazing case or solving an amazing case. It's usually not about attracting women because he's already married.

So what goals should an incel have?

I attend both university seminars, and follow up on crime in my city. I attend chemistry, physics, and biology seminars, and organize data about homicides in my city.
 

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Your goal should be to get laid on a regular basis - at the very least, this means earning enough money to retire very early and then GeoMaxxing.
 

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Your goal should be to get laid on a regular basis - at the very least, this means earning enough money to retire very early and then GeoMaxxing.
What's geomaxxing? Traveling around the world?
 

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A college professor could dream about publishing an amazing paper and getting his paper cited a lot among his field. It's usually not about attracting women because he's already married.

A police officer could dream about breaking an amazing case or solving an amazing case. It's usually not about attracting women because he's already married.

So what goals should an incel have?

I attend both university seminars, and follow up on crime in my city. I attend chemistry, physics, and biology seminars, and organize data about homicides in my city.
The word means involuntary celibate. Seems like the goal is to end the celibate part.

yeah, get laid

At least meet women, talk to women. No need for any intent... yet. You're a student, so study. Study women.
 

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A college professor could dream about publishing an amazing paper and getting his paper cited a lot among his field. It's usually not about attracting women because he's already married.

A police officer could dream about breaking an amazing case or solving an amazing case. It's usually not about attracting women because he's already married.

So what goals should an incel have?

I attend both university seminars, and follow up on crime in my city. I attend chemistry, physics, and biology seminars, and organize data about homicides in my city.
Incel is not a profession. So. This isn’t a good analogy.
 

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To stop forcing yourself to be an incel and rejecting the necessary improvements you need to make to your life.

Incels are people who hide behind excuses rather than focus on any sort of self improvement, or simply give up when it doesn't the small amount of work they've done doesn't pay immediate dividends.
 

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Your goal should be to get laid on a regular basis - at the very least, this means earning enough money to retire very early and then GeoMaxxing.
How early is retiring very early to you?

The only issue is that reaching FIRE(Financial Independence Retire Early) is that it would either require an exorbitant amount of time at work to achieve, and/or living on an extremely lean budget. They would have to make those sacrifices while young, which isn't conducive to GeoMaxxxing. I don't think it's impossible, just points to consider.
 
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To stop forcing yourself to be an incel and rejecting the necessary improvements you need to make to your life.

Incels are people who hide behind excuses rather than focus on any sort of self improvement, or simply give up when it doesn't the small amount of work they've done doesn't pay immediate dividends.
Incels are people who are not rapists, respectful of women's rights, and respectful of the laws of economics supply and demand.
 

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rather than focus on any sort of self improvement,
But that is self-improvement. If you walk around shirtless and women don't care to approach you, then that's their loss, not yours. To not force a conversation with women. To go with spontaneous conversations only. And to not deal with any people who only believe in giving the earned to the earned. And the laws of economics, supply and demand, show there aren't enough people out there that believe in giving the earned to the unearned, for example. Same with natural selection and survival of the fittest.
 

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But that is self-improvement. If you walk around shirtless and women don't care to approach you, then that's their loss, not yours. To not force a conversation with women. To go with spontaneous conversations only. And to not deal with any people who only believe in giving the earned to the earned. And the laws of economics, supply and demand, show there aren't enough people out there that believe in giving the earned to the unearned, for example. Same with natural selection and survival of the fittest.
No that's being delusional and unwilling to improve yourself because it's easier to whine and make excuses.

It's a hard thing to take a good hard look in the mirror and see yourself for what you are. That's why most people never truly do it.

Far easier to think it's always someone else that's the problem instead of you. A lot easier on the fragile ego of those people as well.
 

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Incels are people who are not rapists, respectful of women's rights, and respectful of the laws of economics supply and demand.
That is all good. Do virtues turn women on?
 

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There are diferent kinds of incels. Most of my Incel friends/acquaintances are such because they don’t try (mentalcel) and don’t do any self-improvement. One appears to only want White women (he’s not White).
 

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It depends: if I was an otherwise a "normal" guy, but a virgin/incel, i'd fvck prostitutes. Probably several times. Then I'd go to festivals, concerts, clubs, take adderall/coke/MDMA get drunk and hit on women. Alcohol and drugs are really the secret to getting laid, and while they're obviously a crutch, they can at least show you what you're capable of and promote a paradigm shift. In the case of incels I'd say who cares about crutches, you just need to get laid as much as you can so you will stop pedestalizing sex and intimacy, and get over that initial mental hurdle. Fvck that "self improvement" nonsense. In the case of incels, any self-improvement you do will be for an ulterior motive (to get laid) which defeats the whole purpose. This is of course assuming you're already fit and healthy and at least somewhat socialized. If you're socially autistic and have no friends or hobbies or skills, at that point, getting a GF/wife is a worthless and straight up harmful goal to have, but you can at least make try to get a few lays while you work on your more deeper goals.

On the other hand.......if I was an incel/virgin due to being 5'4, having a micropenis, strong Indian accent, unfixably ugly, etc I probably would abandon any plans of my curing my inceldom and instead entirely on my own pursuits (developing friendships, hobbies, skills, etc) and probably become enlightened. I would also try my hardest to keep porn out of my life and downregulate my libido sufficiently so as to radically diminish sexual/intimate desires from my mind.

How early is retiring very early to you?

The only issue is that reaching FIRE(Financial Independence Retire Early) is that it would either require an exorbitant amount of time at work to achieve, and/or living on an extremely lean budget. They would have to make those sacrifices while young, which isn't conducive to GeoMaxxxing. I don't think it's impossible, just points to consider.
Other problem is what do you do when you retire? Most men retire then decay into a pointless life and develop health issues...that's another discussion though.
 
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Lets approach this practical:

A man who is IN voluntary CEL ibate first of all should determine whether he is REALLY involuntary sexless. I am trying to say that the stigma of being a incel doesnt HAVE to be negative; if you

-refuse to see hookers
-refuse to lower your standard too much
-to feck fatties
-to feck sub hb3 /4
-or taking a hatius

You are somewhere between volcel and incel. I know dudes who see hookers on a weekly basis .that's like 50 notches a year..

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But, if you want to be seen by the women YOU want, it's actually about upping your smv. That can be done through fitness, studying game, being socially active, making money, having style and basically always trying to be the best version of yourself.

The latter ,the irony about that is that " once your prayers are heard and a angel falls out of the sky just for you" , you should have to be doing these things ANYWAY. If you live with a woman you'll be FORCED to be on top of your game, and if you don't she'll "lil brother " your azz by saying what you're lacking before she leaves you..
You see? You gonna be running around to be the best you anyway once the pressure of a hot woman dawns down on you, so might as well start even WITHOUT having a woman. Because if YOU are ready and you meet a like minded woman, the entrance will be easy and smooth.

These are things YOU can control. You can control whether are spending time being a stud or not...
 

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No that's being delusional and unwilling to improve yourself because it's easier to whine and make excuses.
But this is precisely how we improve ourselves. Follow the laws of attraction, and work on making yourself attractive and approachable.

It's a hard thing to take a good hard look in the mirror and see yourself for what you are. That's why most people never truly do it.
Yes, a non-pick up artist. And then better yourself and make yourself attractive.

Far easier to think it's always someone else that's the problem instead of you. A lot easier on the fragile ego of those people as well.
We didn't blame any individuals, we simply follow the laws of economics: supply and demand.
 

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That is all good. Do virtues turn women on?
In theory, yes, but that still doesn't mean women will approach a man.

There are diferent kinds of incels. Most of my Incel friends/acquaintances are such because they don’t try (mentalcel) and don’t do any self-improvement. One appears to only want White women (he’s not White).
They should at least try getting approached by women and getting noticed by women.
 
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