crackers444
Don Juan
Hey, I am wondering what are the key signs a girl shows interest in you online. It isn't alway's clear sometimes online or in person for that matter!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
crackers444 said:Hey, I am wondering what are the key signs a girl shows interest in you online. It isn't alway's clear sometimes online or in person for that matter!
Also how fast they reply. If you know they check it everyday and you dont get a reply until 3-4 days later... might not be a great signGangster Of Love said:Whe she tells you through IM/Email,etc. "Crackers444, we need to get together very soon, here is my number. Call me to schedule a meeting, because I want to meet."
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I agree with the first part, although a lot of girls do play hard to get for the prompt repliesLuke Skywalker said:They reply to your email - and they put a bit of work into their reply (not just to brush you off or make a technical reply), and/or if they email you first. Since it's really tough to make a connection online it's safe to assume if she replies promptly that there is interest.
definetely. then again it's true that if a girl respnds promptly to everything, then you've got money in your hands, but it defeinetely isn't a do all end allVixen said:It's hard to generalise. Some women may play hard to get, others might play sort of hard to get so they don't sound too forward - others will be like me and be about as subtle as a divebomber. What's her personality like? Her past history with guys, all that jazz? It's easier to (accurately) figure out a girl's responses, or lack thereof, if you actually take into account who she is. She's not a random in a club you met 10 minutes ago, so you have a bit more to work with.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Simple, she agrees to meet you in real life and after the meeting she suggests, or agrees to meet yet again. In a nutshell, she's not going to hang out with you if she's not interested. Now the question is really whether or not she sees you as more than a friend.crackers444 said:Hey, I am wondering what are the key signs a girl shows interest in you online. It isn't alway's clear sometimes online or in person for that matter!
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.