"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What are all the IoI's?

jeffthechef

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I'm on vacation right now...and i see this girl about fifteen feet directly in front of me...i keep glancing over and see her staring at me...i wanted to approach her but i couldn't tell if she was interested...i know some of the ioi's such as playing with her hair, body facing you, etc...she was staring but she was also checking out her fingernails as if she weren't interested...plus my dad was with me..sigh:(
SO please list all the IoI's you know
Thanks :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Five To One

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I dont have a list of IoI but I hope your beating yourself up over not approaching her. Your not going to know 100% if she is interested until you talk to her and even if she isnt its no big deal. Your even on vacation, you wont ever see this girl again so dont worry about embarassing yourself.

And dont worry about your dad being there, I know I would be impressed and proud if I watched my son approach a girl (I dont have one yet but in the future).

Just have fun and learn from the approach, always.

Just wanted to say that, hopefully someone answers your question now.
 

WalkingStick

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It sounds like she was at least a little interested.

Eye contact and a smile is plenty as far as IOIs. A girl will never stare at you, giggling and playing with her hair while she nibbles her finger and pushes her breasts together. All she'll do is look at you and see if you have to balls to approach.

Five to One makes a great point. You don't need ANY IOIs to approach a girl. Sometimes they'll act disinterested or try to hide their interest. If you're interested, approach. She'll respect your confidence and if she's not interested, you dont have to ever see her again.

With that said, if you want really detailed info on IOIs, look for some stuff on body language around the forums.
 

Dank Juan

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jeffthechef said:
i keep glancing over and see her staring at me...i wanted to approach her but i couldn't tell if she was interested...she was staring but she was also checking out her fingernails as if she weren't interested.
Staring and feigning disinterest.
You're such a pu­ssy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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CapCrunch

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dude you shouldn't NEED IoIs to aproach a girl, just go for it
 

crazyman11

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You know what you need to approach this woman?

You gotta grab your balls and go in. That's what I think whenever i'm thinking about whether or not i should approach a girl. Actually, you shouldn't even have to think about it, you should just approach an attractive girl automatically
 
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