She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LOL bro...i had a chance to lose my virginity with a hooker once last year...couldnt do it. I knew it was gonna haunt me for the rest of my life if i did lose it to a tute.Maxtro said:22, from a hooker![]()
To answer the question of this thread first: Hopefully before this year ends.ketostix said:About 21 for me. I missed several chances when I was 15-21.
I have a question, how many on here are still a virgin. What's the oldest virgin here? lol
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Luke Skywalkerketostix said:About 21 for me. I missed several chances when I was 15-21.
I have a question, how many on here are still a virgin. What's the oldest virgin here? lol
Exactly.comic_relief said:19.5 years old
I didn't feel any different after I lost my virginity. I was like, "This is it? It's no different than before."
It's not really that big of a deal, just everyone makes it out to be such a bigger deal than it really is.
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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
It should be written, "Who" is the oldest virgin here. I think PuertoRican_Lover is the oldest virgin here!ketostix said:I have a question, how many on here are still a virgin. What's the oldest virgin here? lol
Well are you a virgin? If so, then the oldest virgin here is 45 but I have my doubts. Someone said Luke Sywalker is one so and I think he's 26 but he has verified. Other than that we have 21 as the oldest.Last Man Standing said:It should be written, "Who" is the oldest virgin here. I think PuertoRican_Lover is the oldest virgin here!
No, I"m 31 years old, thus I"m the oldest virgin on here.ketostix said:Well are you a virgin? If so, then the oldest virgin here is 45 but I have my doubts. Someone said Luke Sywalker is one so and I think he's 26 but he has verified. Other than that we have 21 as the oldest.
21! do I have 22 lol?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.