Locster
Don Juan
I just moved in to my dorm room and Im about to start classes on thursday and since im the probably the least experienced guy on this forum what advice would you give regarding women and socializing?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What advice would you give to a college freshman?
- Thread starter Locster
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
make a good solid network of friends. Guys and girls.
Study and go to class.
Worry about girls and socializing secondary.
Getting the most pvssy and being the most popular guy on campus won't mean sh!t if you fail out.
Getting good grades, a degree and a good career will get you more women in the long run.
good luck!
Worry about girls and socializing secondary.
Getting the most pvssy and being the most popular guy on campus won't mean sh!t if you fail out.
Getting good grades, a degree and a good career will get you more women in the long run.
good luck!
realsmoothie
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1 - keep up your studies.
2 - don't stress about what direction your academic career is going. you can always change your major, and you'll end up changing your mind when you're 25 anyhow.
3 - join clubs/groups. I don't care if it's hiking or chess or flag football or young communists or dungeons & dragons or whatever. All clubs allow you to make friends with common interests, and even if they're guys it'll allow you to make more people.
4 - don't get oneitis. By this I mean (and you'll see it on the site) don't get a crush on one girl and ignore others. Spread your seed...!
I envy you. College rocks. It may not be "the time of your life" but you'll remember it forever. Good luck and have fun.
2 - don't stress about what direction your academic career is going. you can always change your major, and you'll end up changing your mind when you're 25 anyhow.
3 - join clubs/groups. I don't care if it's hiking or chess or flag football or young communists or dungeons & dragons or whatever. All clubs allow you to make friends with common interests, and even if they're guys it'll allow you to make more people.
4 - don't get oneitis. By this I mean (and you'll see it on the site) don't get a crush on one girl and ignore others. Spread your seed...!
I envy you. College rocks. It may not be "the time of your life" but you'll remember it forever. Good luck and have fun.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Freshman girls are honey as f*ck and with the new freedom they tend to be a little wild...and by wild i mean easy. All girls are horny. Get drunk. Do homework...get drunk more.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Locster
Don Juan
how do i cold approach these girls but at the same time be able to save face since im probably gonna see them again
Approach them like someone you just want to meet and get to know who they are.
You're just a guy who is new to college and wants to meet new people. Be fun and friendly. Don't worry about a g/f or getting laid, just try to meet people and the hookups will happen.
Get a good group of guy friends who like to go out and meet up with other groups of girls.
College will/should be the best years of your life, especially if HS wasn't so good.
You're just a guy who is new to college and wants to meet new people. Be fun and friendly. Don't worry about a g/f or getting laid, just try to meet people and the hookups will happen.
Get a good group of guy friends who like to go out and meet up with other groups of girls.
College will/should be the best years of your life, especially if HS wasn't so good.
Locster
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spesmilitis
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One thing that works great for me is to sit with girls I don't know at the cafeteria. A lot of cute girls sit by themselves at cafeterias, and in my experience, I've never been told no when I asked to sit with them. It's pretty easy. Get the digits before you leave and you're in.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.