"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What about THIS type of girl..

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-She thinks shes boring
-She doesn't think she's hot
-She's not trying to get a guy
-She's not trying to get into a relationship
-She's not sure of what she really wants

Fellow DJs...i'm trying to get her, but i don't know how to approach.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Oni
-She thinks shes boring
-She doesn't think she's hot
-She's not trying to get a guy
-She's not trying to get into a relationship with me
-She's not sure of what she really wants

Fellow DJs...i'm trying to get her, but i don't know how to approach.
fixed
 

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Yes it would sound like shes not trying to have a relationship with you. But you should still try to get her. Since it sounds like she has no self confidence, take advantage of that. She most likely wont make you stop if you kino her. Or just lean over to kiss her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Oni

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but that doesnt solve the problem =[
 

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Make her feel good about herself, is the best tactic for girls with low self esteem. Im dealing with someone who is slightly similar but i think it is because she is new at our school and therefore very wary of everything. And then she had to bugger off on a compulsory (for her) school trip for a week, so im like stuck as she still is not texting me every day. :(

Anyway when she comes back im gonna build up her self esteem and in my case she said she is interested (and her few m8s say she is just bare worried about being new).
 

Oni

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what would be a good way of bringing up her self-esteem? complementing her?
 

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sounds like a trainwreck dont waste your time with her. not worth your time.
 

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She needs you to inflate her ego.

Now do the right thing and go get the pump.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by xomel
Yes it would sound like shes not trying to have a relationship with you. But you should still try to get her. Since it sounds like she has no self confidence, take advantage of that. She most likely wont make you stop if you kino her. Or just lean over to kiss her.
you could do that, but it wont make her like you, infact it could make her hate you. Like mentioned earlyer try and make her fele good about her self, she will love being around you, but just remember that if you over compliment her she will still not like you and if you raise her confidence then she will always have you to thank for that but, that does not mean that she will stick with you.

Theres not much you can do because of this, this si the kind of girl you could be very good freinds with, but trying to get in to a relationship with her is a lost cause, that does not mena give up but im saying it will not be easy and will not necciserly be possible. Like i said before, make her fell good aobut herslef, raise her ego but be prepaired for the day when she is confident and will ditch you, that day will come, its almost a certanty unless you change yourself for her as you go along, because when she is confident you will need to use C&F and neg-hit etc.. and everything you would do with a normal girl

hope iv been a help
 

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thanks check mate, right now, i'm just going to wait until homecoming. I'll avoid hanging out with her as much as possible and ask her to homecoming when it gets near. the thing is i dont know if she's even gonna go ugh! anyways, if she says yes then i'll start from there, if it's a no then ill just next her. but if its a no cuz im not going then uh..???
 

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she will be too shy to say yes, you need to get to know her better, so she is comfterable around you, otherwise she will say no.
 

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i forgot to mention something, we've been friends ever since middle school.

and we are rather close friends
 
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