"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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-She thinks shes boring
-She doesn't think she's hot
-She's not trying to get a guy
-She's not trying to get into a relationship
-She's not sure of what she really wants

Fellow DJs...i'm trying to get her, but i don't know how to approach.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by Oni
-She thinks shes boring
-She doesn't think she's hot
-She's not trying to get a guy
-She's not trying to get into a relationship with me
-She's not sure of what she really wants

Fellow DJs...i'm trying to get her, but i don't know how to approach.
fixed
 

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Yes it would sound like shes not trying to have a relationship with you. But you should still try to get her. Since it sounds like she has no self confidence, take advantage of that. She most likely wont make you stop if you kino her. Or just lean over to kiss her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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but that doesnt solve the problem =[
 

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Make her feel good about herself, is the best tactic for girls with low self esteem. Im dealing with someone who is slightly similar but i think it is because she is new at our school and therefore very wary of everything. And then she had to bugger off on a compulsory (for her) school trip for a week, so im like stuck as she still is not texting me every day. :(

Anyway when she comes back im gonna build up her self esteem and in my case she said she is interested (and her few m8s say she is just bare worried about being new).
 

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what would be a good way of bringing up her self-esteem? complementing her?
 

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sounds like a trainwreck dont waste your time with her. not worth your time.
 

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She needs you to inflate her ego.

Now do the right thing and go get the pump.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by xomel
Yes it would sound like shes not trying to have a relationship with you. But you should still try to get her. Since it sounds like she has no self confidence, take advantage of that. She most likely wont make you stop if you kino her. Or just lean over to kiss her.
you could do that, but it wont make her like you, infact it could make her hate you. Like mentioned earlyer try and make her fele good about her self, she will love being around you, but just remember that if you over compliment her she will still not like you and if you raise her confidence then she will always have you to thank for that but, that does not mean that she will stick with you.

Theres not much you can do because of this, this si the kind of girl you could be very good freinds with, but trying to get in to a relationship with her is a lost cause, that does not mena give up but im saying it will not be easy and will not necciserly be possible. Like i said before, make her fell good aobut herslef, raise her ego but be prepaired for the day when she is confident and will ditch you, that day will come, its almost a certanty unless you change yourself for her as you go along, because when she is confident you will need to use C&F and neg-hit etc.. and everything you would do with a normal girl

hope iv been a help
 

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thanks check mate, right now, i'm just going to wait until homecoming. I'll avoid hanging out with her as much as possible and ask her to homecoming when it gets near. the thing is i dont know if she's even gonna go ugh! anyways, if she says yes then i'll start from there, if it's a no then ill just next her. but if its a no cuz im not going then uh..???
 

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she will be too shy to say yes, you need to get to know her better, so she is comfterable around you, otherwise she will say no.
 

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i forgot to mention something, we've been friends ever since middle school.

and we are rather close friends
 
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