"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

What’s the policy when under the influence? What the hell do I do?

lamath

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2018
Messages
2,714
Reaction score
2,659
Age
45
Location
Canada
@nicksaiz65 my guess, as to why she was essentially sexually leading you on, is that she knew when she gave you a little bit of sexual attention you were going to reciprocate with a lot of attention.

Think about it, a few packs on the cheeks from her would probably keep your attention focused her direction for the entire night. when she didn't want your attention she wouldn't initiate like that. When she did want your attention she would initiate like that.

depending on her mood that evening and whether or not there was another man she was interested in she would decide whether or not to lead you on.

Telling you this matters me uncomfortable because it's not a nice thing to say to someone and I don't know if I am correct. But that is the only reason I can think of that she would throw a little sexuality your way, and only sometimes.

That's my best guess.

did she ever like you? Did she ever see any value in you? She probably did, but not enough to make you her man permanently. I'm sure on many levels you became a source of comfort and male friendship
If she would have been High IL i dont think she would be that way.


At that age she prob does not handle well being drunk or stone prob the cause of this problem.
Be happy it did not get farther.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

nicksaiz65

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 27, 2017
Messages
4,100
Reaction score
1,744
Age
29
If she would have been High IL i dont think she would be that way.


At that age she prob does not handle well being drunk or stone prob the cause of this problem.
Be happy it did not get farther.
It’s honestly a blessing in disguise. That’s God looking out for me. Can you imagine if I had fvcked her? She’d be crying out rape and I’d probably be incarcerated right now.
 

lamath

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2018
Messages
2,714
Reaction score
2,659
Age
45
Location
Canada
It’s honestly a blessing in disguise. That’s God looking out for me. Can you imagine if I had fvcked her? She’d be crying out rape and I’d probably be incarcerated right now.
Yep, this **** can be hard on a guy self esteem and make him feel quilty.

Dont let it bother you, i dont think you did anything wrong.
Just be careful next time a similar situation occurs
 

nicksaiz65

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 27, 2017
Messages
4,100
Reaction score
1,744
Age
29
Also, this reminds me of a question I had for you guys. So we all know mixed signals means Low Interest. Hypothetically, let’s say a girl is giving you mixed signals like that and therefore has a Low Interest in you. Interest levels can be raised, but is it worth it to try and raise them that case? Or should you just drop it?

I ask this because AMS said something to the effect of if you’re only chasing after high interest level girls, you’re leaving a lot of ass on the table. I guess 2 Strikes would be an effective way to deal with this?

This question could Lowkey be its own thread
 

nicksaiz65

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 27, 2017
Messages
4,100
Reaction score
1,744
Age
29
Yep, this **** can be hard on a guy self esteem and make him feel quilty.

Dont let it bother you, i dont think you did anything wrong.
Just be careful next time a similar situation occurs
I don’t think I did anything wrong either after talking to you guys. We’ll see if she ever comes around. But think about it like this. Now I have the knowledge not to fvck around with drunk girls unless I’ve fvcked them before in this Me Too era.

I’d rather learn this lesson sooner than later. Better to learn it now than with some entitled slut who throws out a false rape charge. That would most definitely ruin my life and I just can’t have that. I hope I can get this friendship back, but I still learned a very valuable lesson.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

nicksaiz65

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 27, 2017
Messages
4,100
Reaction score
1,744
Age
29
Oh and @sazc I appreciate it but don’t worry about hurting my feelings. I’d rather have the raw, uncut truth. The whole reason the Blue Pill sucks is because they sugarcoat stuff and lie to us. If I hear the whole painful truth, that’s the fastest way to get better imo
 
Top