"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What’s the policy when under the influence? What the hell do I do?

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@nicksaiz65 my guess, as to why she was essentially sexually leading you on, is that she knew when she gave you a little bit of sexual attention you were going to reciprocate with a lot of attention.

Think about it, a few packs on the cheeks from her would probably keep your attention focused her direction for the entire night. when she didn't want your attention she wouldn't initiate like that. When she did want your attention she would initiate like that.

depending on her mood that evening and whether or not there was another man she was interested in she would decide whether or not to lead you on.

Telling you this matters me uncomfortable because it's not a nice thing to say to someone and I don't know if I am correct. But that is the only reason I can think of that she would throw a little sexuality your way, and only sometimes.

That's my best guess.

did she ever like you? Did she ever see any value in you? She probably did, but not enough to make you her man permanently. I'm sure on many levels you became a source of comfort and male friendship
If she would have been High IL i dont think she would be that way.


At that age she prob does not handle well being drunk or stone prob the cause of this problem.
Be happy it did not get farther.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If she would have been High IL i dont think she would be that way.


At that age she prob does not handle well being drunk or stone prob the cause of this problem.
Be happy it did not get farther.
It’s honestly a blessing in disguise. That’s God looking out for me. Can you imagine if I had fvcked her? She’d be crying out rape and I’d probably be incarcerated right now.
 

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It’s honestly a blessing in disguise. That’s God looking out for me. Can you imagine if I had fvcked her? She’d be crying out rape and I’d probably be incarcerated right now.
Yep, this **** can be hard on a guy self esteem and make him feel quilty.

Dont let it bother you, i dont think you did anything wrong.
Just be careful next time a similar situation occurs
 

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Also, this reminds me of a question I had for you guys. So we all know mixed signals means Low Interest. Hypothetically, let’s say a girl is giving you mixed signals like that and therefore has a Low Interest in you. Interest levels can be raised, but is it worth it to try and raise them that case? Or should you just drop it?

I ask this because AMS said something to the effect of if you’re only chasing after high interest level girls, you’re leaving a lot of ass on the table. I guess 2 Strikes would be an effective way to deal with this?

This question could Lowkey be its own thread
 

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Yep, this **** can be hard on a guy self esteem and make him feel quilty.

Dont let it bother you, i dont think you did anything wrong.
Just be careful next time a similar situation occurs
I don’t think I did anything wrong either after talking to you guys. We’ll see if she ever comes around. But think about it like this. Now I have the knowledge not to fvck around with drunk girls unless I’ve fvcked them before in this Me Too era.

I’d rather learn this lesson sooner than later. Better to learn it now than with some entitled slut who throws out a false rape charge. That would most definitely ruin my life and I just can’t have that. I hope I can get this friendship back, but I still learned a very valuable lesson.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Oh and @sazc I appreciate it but don’t worry about hurting my feelings. I’d rather have the raw, uncut truth. The whole reason the Blue Pill sucks is because they sugarcoat stuff and lie to us. If I hear the whole painful truth, that’s the fastest way to get better imo
 
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