"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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went and learned to dance

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This girl and me have hung out a few times, she's in some classes, and the lack of any kissing or whatever so far is leading me to believe I'm getting close to friend-zone stuff. She's always touching me though and talking to me all the time and such so I figure I'm doing alright.

anyway, she's on msn telling me she can't do this dance routine because there's no way she'll find a replacement for it that she "knows enough and is tall enough" (hmmm ;)) so I ask a few questions about it and tell her we're doing it.
So we went today, I'm making faces and improvising (and I generally suck at this cha cha stuff, all new to me), she's laughing all the time and all over it. I'm out of my element though, for sure. I wasn't really leading anything though physically, even though there's tonnes of touching. This guy who's supposed to be teaching me gets in my way a lot. I tell her she's going to have to dress up in heels and a low-cut flashy dress for the big show. Before we have to leave she asks the dance teacher if us 2 can stay longer to practice.

Anyway, not too bad even though I have no clue what I'm doing. Only thing I'm worried about is that this sort of thing is too friendly (learning a routine together...) and that I'm horrible at this stuff.
Can't hang out with her outside of school for over a week (next next weekend maybe). Suggestions? comments? Ways to keep this from getting too friendly?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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OMG It's Patrick F*ckin' Swayze in DIRTY F*CKIN' DANCING. OMG!
 

Jay Jay

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stick with it

1. dancing IS NOT FREINDLY. dancing is very very sexual. you have you hands all over her, your bodies are moving in synchronisation... dude...

CAN YOU NOT SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE

2. if you don't bang this chick but become a good dancer becasue of it you will thank her for the rest of your life. if you can dance well you have p8ssy flying at you.

yeah i got a suggestion. next time you two are dancing alone pull her body real close against you look into her eyes and kiss her.

jj
 

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This is something I really want to get into. Dancing is super sexual, which is why so many girls love it. Jay Jay hit the nail on the head. Keep it up man, and remember this stuff. It'll be a big benefit to you, even if it doesn't seem like it.
 

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Yeah, just to let you guys know, i already have an update on this stuff only a few hours later - went to the park with some girl, when it got dark I showed her some cha cha (lol from what I know from only a few hours earlier) then we just screwed around and did a pretend tango and stuff.

already this dance stuff is beneficial lol
even if this girl doesn't end up with me it's already coming in handy
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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