"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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went and learned to dance

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This girl and me have hung out a few times, she's in some classes, and the lack of any kissing or whatever so far is leading me to believe I'm getting close to friend-zone stuff. She's always touching me though and talking to me all the time and such so I figure I'm doing alright.

anyway, she's on msn telling me she can't do this dance routine because there's no way she'll find a replacement for it that she "knows enough and is tall enough" (hmmm ;)) so I ask a few questions about it and tell her we're doing it.
So we went today, I'm making faces and improvising (and I generally suck at this cha cha stuff, all new to me), she's laughing all the time and all over it. I'm out of my element though, for sure. I wasn't really leading anything though physically, even though there's tonnes of touching. This guy who's supposed to be teaching me gets in my way a lot. I tell her she's going to have to dress up in heels and a low-cut flashy dress for the big show. Before we have to leave she asks the dance teacher if us 2 can stay longer to practice.

Anyway, not too bad even though I have no clue what I'm doing. Only thing I'm worried about is that this sort of thing is too friendly (learning a routine together...) and that I'm horrible at this stuff.
Can't hang out with her outside of school for over a week (next next weekend maybe). Suggestions? comments? Ways to keep this from getting too friendly?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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OMG It's Patrick F*ckin' Swayze in DIRTY F*CKIN' DANCING. OMG!
 

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stick with it

1. dancing IS NOT FREINDLY. dancing is very very sexual. you have you hands all over her, your bodies are moving in synchronisation... dude...

CAN YOU NOT SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE

2. if you don't bang this chick but become a good dancer becasue of it you will thank her for the rest of your life. if you can dance well you have p8ssy flying at you.

yeah i got a suggestion. next time you two are dancing alone pull her body real close against you look into her eyes and kiss her.

jj
 

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This is something I really want to get into. Dancing is super sexual, which is why so many girls love it. Jay Jay hit the nail on the head. Keep it up man, and remember this stuff. It'll be a big benefit to you, even if it doesn't seem like it.
 

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Yeah, just to let you guys know, i already have an update on this stuff only a few hours later - went to the park with some girl, when it got dark I showed her some cha cha (lol from what I know from only a few hours earlier) then we just screwed around and did a pretend tango and stuff.

already this dance stuff is beneficial lol
even if this girl doesn't end up with me it's already coming in handy
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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