"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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went and learned to dance

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This girl and me have hung out a few times, she's in some classes, and the lack of any kissing or whatever so far is leading me to believe I'm getting close to friend-zone stuff. She's always touching me though and talking to me all the time and such so I figure I'm doing alright.

anyway, she's on msn telling me she can't do this dance routine because there's no way she'll find a replacement for it that she "knows enough and is tall enough" (hmmm ;)) so I ask a few questions about it and tell her we're doing it.
So we went today, I'm making faces and improvising (and I generally suck at this cha cha stuff, all new to me), she's laughing all the time and all over it. I'm out of my element though, for sure. I wasn't really leading anything though physically, even though there's tonnes of touching. This guy who's supposed to be teaching me gets in my way a lot. I tell her she's going to have to dress up in heels and a low-cut flashy dress for the big show. Before we have to leave she asks the dance teacher if us 2 can stay longer to practice.

Anyway, not too bad even though I have no clue what I'm doing. Only thing I'm worried about is that this sort of thing is too friendly (learning a routine together...) and that I'm horrible at this stuff.
Can't hang out with her outside of school for over a week (next next weekend maybe). Suggestions? comments? Ways to keep this from getting too friendly?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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OMG It's Patrick F*ckin' Swayze in DIRTY F*CKIN' DANCING. OMG!
 

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stick with it

1. dancing IS NOT FREINDLY. dancing is very very sexual. you have you hands all over her, your bodies are moving in synchronisation... dude...

CAN YOU NOT SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE

2. if you don't bang this chick but become a good dancer becasue of it you will thank her for the rest of your life. if you can dance well you have p8ssy flying at you.

yeah i got a suggestion. next time you two are dancing alone pull her body real close against you look into her eyes and kiss her.

jj
 

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This is something I really want to get into. Dancing is super sexual, which is why so many girls love it. Jay Jay hit the nail on the head. Keep it up man, and remember this stuff. It'll be a big benefit to you, even if it doesn't seem like it.
 

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Yeah, just to let you guys know, i already have an update on this stuff only a few hours later - went to the park with some girl, when it got dark I showed her some cha cha (lol from what I know from only a few hours earlier) then we just screwed around and did a pretend tango and stuff.

already this dance stuff is beneficial lol
even if this girl doesn't end up with me it's already coming in handy
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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